Kick a man while hes down.....

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Kaos General, Aug 3, 2011.

  1. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    Come on, line up seeing as im gonna get twat tattoed on my forehead. Im feeling like shit and im really fucking depressed and was cheering myself up but oh no no no thats not allowed so it seems i can get treated like shit and people can expect no retaliation from me because im not allowed to say anything back so line up and insult me and treat me like shit because its all im worth on here.
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    You know you are worth so much more hun i don't know what happen but you are cared for here hugs
  3. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    One thing i am not is cared for by the majority of people on here. I have to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself and remain in pain and depressed because trying to cheer up is not allowed. People can say and do whatever they want to me on here and get away with it so ya know what, whats the point?
  4. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    you know those people will eventually get canned right i am sorry they are hurting you tonight Those people are not worth the pain okay there not
  5. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    no they wont, thats clear already. Its fine anyway, i give up
  6. IV2010

    IV2010 Well-Known Member

    please don't give up Wayne...
    keep on reaching out ok
    some of us understand you are going through hell and need support

    TEs right you are cared for here
    take care of you and remember 'Karma'
  7. lancashirelass

    lancashirelass Well-Known Member

    Wayne hun you are care for by so many on here don't let a few idiots put you down. When i left for bed you were in an excellent mood it was good seeing you like that. I am here for you hun :hug:
  8. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    :hug: don't know what's occured but have a :hug: anyway
  9. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    You read my PM and know how I feel...remember there is someone in Brooklyn who truly cares about you...J
  10. black orchid

    black orchid Well-Known Member

    Someone in Surrey too :( I'll be back in London tomorrow xx
  11. Moat

    Moat Banned Member

    On one side, at least a lot of people know you here. I've been here since 2009 and can count on one hand the number of people who are either a friend (3) or know me in the chat rooms.
    On the other side, who gives a rqts what anyone thinks of you? If they have a problem, let them deal with it, seeing as it will keep them awake at night and not you.
  12. peacelovingguy

    peacelovingguy Well-Known Member

    The majority of people here will care - but a lot are in pain and so its understandable if many don't pass a kind comment.

    As people know you a little - I think everyone who sticks around here does care. Some are able say - others well - its hard to care for others when you hate yourself - it truly is.

    As for keeping feelings in - why?

    I'll let mine out - and don't care what anyone thinks - unless they think something nice for me.

    I hate depression - in the past I hurt people or pushed them away (hurt them to push them away) or just kept at a distance. Even love scared me - I mean, I'd cheerfully have relations with almost any woman (that way one will surely have me!) but getting too close? I mean - how much can a man hide? Answer - actually a lot - but in the end - it weighs down upon you. You cannot carry that big a lie all your life. I tried - but now I know its wasted time for sure.

    I actually think almost everyone I know would accept me for what I am, have been, and could be for a little bit longer. Sometimes a stranger looks at me from the mirror also. For all of us right?

    Er - an overshare? Well, maybe - but I'm just saying - sometimes we do push people away. I know how to 'play the game' now - I can socialise, look happy - be the man you might look at and think "he seems to be having a good time"

    People would never suspect me.

    And we all act sometimes. You pass someone in the street and say your doing 'great' when your not. But this 'act' is a brave attempt to avoid creating a world in which maybe everyone is sad because everyone around them is sad. I mean - you can end up negative and I was that way for a long time. Cynical - wary - friends with every man but I was my own enemy. I Am. But I'm trying hard not to be.

    Do you know what an 'empath' is? Well, if it existed it would be a being so totally able to empathise that if just one psychopath landed on a planet of peaceful co-existing empaths - everyone 'empath' would become a killer because they would empathise so deeply.

    Humans are not empaths - but we have an extraordinary gift to empathise with others. I think people are almost like 'empaths' as their emotional connections with others are linked. I think a lot of depression starts with people almost 'fed up' - and this is because we are social creatures at heart - and a 'loner' is just someone struggling to make that connection.

    And if we reject ourselves - hate ourselves and carry anger around that does not need carrying.

    Ultimatly - no matter help we get - in the end WE have to be the ones that kick our own ass. I'm not saying that in a nasty sense angerfist - its as much for me as anyone else. My motto also - kick MY ass before I kick anyone else's.

    In fact - here! kick it yourself! Kick my sorry ass!

    For men - our struggle is to be 'the man' - I mean to feel like we are special - we are what we are - and people WILL accept us or they will be idiots! WE do rule. Its about just letting that 1% bit of good feeling everyone has buried inside to crawl out of the cocoon.

    You know when a caterpillar looks like its some dead thing hanging off a plant? That's how I felt - and feel sometimes.

    I was able to see out of the cocoon - break open the 'shell' and peer at the freedom around - the beauty and the dangers. Staying in the cocoon - there is no 'danger' - but as humans we are destined to break out of it. It is how we grow and develop.

    For a caterpillar, I don't know what it feels as it turns from some fairly ugly creature - that leaves a mess in the garden and eats your plants. But I know how I feel - and I think for us its the FEAR of FLYING - the letting go of a previous self - previous life - the 'you' that was always going to change into someone else no matter what.

    So for me depression, is the cocoon stage.

    You got to let go of the fear of flying - and fly.

    A butterfly - its life seems brief only because look back at it.

    One day we look back at our lives.

    And I assure you it will go so fast.

    Even the endless nights - the bad times, days worse than any others - they also pass. Seems forever - but actually its not.

    I think I have already made friends with you here - drop by and say 'hi' anytime!

    Hope some of this helps angerfist - people do care - you are not on your own.
  13. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    This isnt about me being depressed. I dont trust people on here. Ive talked about my past before and its been used against me elsewhere. I get treated like im here specifically for the use of being the bad guy by people who want someone to shout and scream at. Their are only a few people on here who actually truly cares. People use that phrase too loosely when they say i care. Its also a dangerous thing when people say you can talk to me.....when you do they are never around or you go and talk to them and they sit their all night and talk about their problems totally ignoring what you have to say. This isnt about what happened last night, that was just the straw that broke the camels back. This has been going on for at least the past year and ive just got to the point where i cant really deal with it anymore
  14. texaskitty

    texaskitty SF Cat Lady Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I care. :hug:
  15. Kaos General

    Kaos General Well-Known Member

    I know you care angie and i know people on here also care but its few and far between as to what it used to be like