Yeah that reads very over board.
So.. there should be a standard for when people feel affection and care for another person? I completely disagree that waiting till you are 16 is the best time to start dating. Kids have "relationships", just immature ones, but that's in comparison from our eyes. From theirs they're feeling something very unique and special for them, or it can just something nice that they enjoy for the moment. Sure they don't understand the depth of feelings and emotions, but how else are they supposed to learn? By collecting data and watching other people till they can drive and then go for it?:huh:
Kids can feel what they want for eachother, and enjoy eachothers company. They might imitate the word love from what they see other people doing, and they might believe they are feeling true love.. who knows they might. They might actually not be imitating. But for the ones that are... Live and learn. That's what parents are for, brothers, sisters, family, friends.. when they overreact, because of the assumptions they've created to fill in the gaps that lead to true love, they will look retarded. But it doesn't mean they are, they just don't understand relationships and are learning how to be honest and themselves with someone else and see them for who they are.
If they have good role models around them, or have a good awarness.
Sorry, I know it read alot into something so trival as a kids relationship of love, but there's alot of things going on then just a blanketed statment.
It might piss you off, but maybe ask yourself why it pisses you off. If there's something in your live where love has been a sore spot, dont super impose that onto the immaturity of those just learning to feel love. Even if what you hate is people who fake saying I love you, and you see the similiarities in the younger generation. You can't deny desire and feelings, ... I mean kids say I love you as easily as they say I love pie. They learn through experience what the difference is for themselves. They are going to make mistakes, they are going to look like idiots, but it doesnt mean they are idiots. Just growing and experincing life and their own desires.
God.. I know this sounds retarded, but don't blanket kids because of a few that over react or because you started dating later for whatever reason. My gf's daughter went out and spent time with a disabled boy when she was 7. She enjoyed his company, she saw something special in him to her. From an overview it might look sweet, but whats the difference if he wasnt disabled? It's just a kid enjoying something about another kid. That understanding and awareness of who the other person is is going to be limited, but also very liberating for them. Sure they "break" up and impose alot of adult crap in there, but thats what the role models are for. To help them not bring shit that wasnt there to being with into the picture. To help them see what they actually saw in the first place, be it affection, or just a social statment. It's all a learning curve.
Sorry, restricting stuff like that is never a good idea. Though I suppose it is actually if the role models can't be there to help the kids through it if they need it.
I donno. To each his own. That little quote reads rediculous to us because alot of people actually do it. She probably doesn't. But somehow she's connected to that. Either through improper assumption, lack of awareness or whatever reason(s).
Perhaps instead of chastising her, you could try to talk to her about how she feels and let her say what she think shes feeling or how she should feel, or maybe how she actually feels.
Kids get confused, especially when they dont have the support and care they need in their everyday life. Or when their hormones or whatever else factor in.
Ug.. I donno, im trying to say, It's not so cut and dry as an idiot kid being a social squeel just going with the latest fad of expressive emotions that's most publically known to be dramatic. Sometimes it is, and they do go into these relationships for the attention cause it's a gateway, but not all.
It's always on an individual basis.
I donno. Ill never give into a bunch of people being idiots dictating how everyone else is that could be associated to them.
Blah.. fucking black and white contrasting bullshit. I guess, im sorry you are surrounded with the shit end of the stick as far as it goes for kids and relationships. Just don't forget, there are equally as many good relationships for kids as there are bad. Like anything. I really only have a beef with the Make em Wait till they are 16. But im assuming it's just a rant and youre not actually dead set on that one.
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Ignorance on their part, ignorance on our part for not understanding them enough to show them the possible depth and scope of love and life, so they resort to trial and error and imposing what theyve seen and heard, instead of how they feel.
blah blah blah x Cant believe i wasted that much fucking thought on kids. Guess its an easy topic..