Lack of interest

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by Marissa, Sep 9, 2009.

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  1. Marissa

    Marissa Well-Known Member

    Anyone else lacking interest in things they used to love doing? This symptom of depression is also called "anhedonia". Does anyone know how I can combat this?

    I have no interest in ANYTHING. I used to love writing, spending time with my family, playing video games, etc.... But now it's just like, "meh." And I don't know what to do. I don't like feeling this way.
  2. Remedy

    Remedy Chat & Forum Buddy

    I did and pretty much still do. Can you recognize when you started feeling this way? I find it helps to force yourself to do things.. even if you don't feel like it.
  3. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Are you on medication for your depression. Exercise will help as well as trying to do these things because once you start your mind remembers and eventually you will enjoy them. Small steps do little things that use to be enjoyable then work your way up to bigger things take care
  4. Marissa

    Marissa Well-Known Member

    I don't remember when it started, I think last year. I'm not on medication, but I'm thinking of getting a job soon so I can buy some.
  5. zerick

    zerick Member

    I lack interest in most things that I used to like. I keep telling myself that it is change and that something new will come along and I will be interested in it. That has yet to happen. I just force myself to do things each day. It sucks living this way.
  6. blue shoes

    blue shoes Well-Known Member

    I have that too Marissa. I think the way out of it is to force yourself to do things, and hopefully your interest will slowly come back. That being said I can't get out of this state myself, so I am not sure if it works. Getting a job is a good idea imo, it would give you stability and something to keep you occupied.
  7. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    I'm definitely lacking interest in the hobbies I used to have.
    I don't know how to overcome it but I'm looking forward to the replies to see if anyone does know :)
  8. blueman

    blueman Well-Known Member

    When people say 'what you need to do is force yourself to do things', that goes against the whole point of what's making us severely lethargic in the first place! I know exactly what you mean, I have an online course to do and I would so love to resume it and complete it but there are more meaningful things to do, such as staring at the screen, staring out the window, staring back at the screen again, daydreaming about getting down the gym, daydreaming about continuing my online course, etc. It's a huge list of things that I know I 'must' do, 'can' do, but cannot be BOTHERED to do because I have lost that motivation in life to do anything. I'm sorry I don't have the answers to solve it, but I have some understanding of what you're experiencing.

    Incidentally, I DID try to 'force' myself to do something I loved doing... I'm an artist, I love drawing, painting, sketching, doodling, etc.... I bought some new materials to see if I could find inspiration to start doing what I loved most, I bought paints, oil pastels, charcoals, but the passion is no longer there.
    No matter how I scribble, mix colours, blend one material into another. It doesn't come to me anymore. It's an indescribable lack of....something! Passion, zest for life?
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  9. SuicideIsTheWrongOption

    SuicideIsTheWrongOption Well-Known Member

    Blue man and Marissa, i know exactly what you both mean. I've been depressed as long as i can remember (although i do somewhat remember being happy as a child). Either way, i never have the motivation to do anything. nothing is interesting and i don't see the point of doing anything.

    Forcing yourself isn't easy. If you have depression, forcing yourself to do anything is damn near impossible. Depression is a chemical inbalance, you can try all you want to force yourself to be happy, but it will most likely, not work.

    Outside factors, friends, family, boyfriend or girlfriend can have a lot of impact on whether or not you're depressed. I know when i was with one of my ex's i had never felt better in my life. But now im as bad as ever.

    I'm currently on medication, but unfortunatly i've managed to make myself depressed while on it. so my doctor will most likely reccomend stronger meds. But that's hardly half the battle.

    The meds won't make you happy, it'll just keep you from feeling sad (constantly, and consistently). it's a first step, the next step is actually forcing yourself to do things. Cause the major cause of your inability to do things is suppressed (depression), so you have to break the habit of not doing anything, and it's hard.

    Course the best approach is CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) along with meds. The therapy will help you figure out why depression happens and help you avoid getting into the same rut.

    I myself am only just starting therapy, and i've felt real shitty lately (so i still have to work my problems out), but i do know exactly what both of you guys are feeling. And it's not pleasant.
  10. blueman

    blueman Well-Known Member

    For me initially, I was on a type of medication that only worked for a short period of time. After some months they became ineffective and I was at rock bottom again, only this time I thought that there was no cure. I'd been through several different types of counselling therapy including CBT, and that didn't work for me either. It IS a very good form of therapy for some people, but not all so I am not going to rubbish CBT here :)
    I decided to volunteer myself into a psychiatric unit where I was closely monitored day and night, they watched my meds, see how I reacted over the days and weeks and changed it accordingly, either altering the dose or changing the medication completely.
    These days I'm on a medication that I have to pay for (it's not free from the health service here), it's an expensive drug but it's doing wonders for ME. The type of counselling I'm receiving now seems to fit me correctly too, all because of the close monitoring of my moods during the time in the psychiatric unit.
    Without that investment of time in that unit, I don't feel I'd have got exactly what I needed, which is the right medication and the right counselling.
    I'm by no means out of the woods yet (my motivation is still very sadly lacking) but it's at least got me writing here on a daily basis! I'd never have done this before!
  11. SAVE_ME

    SAVE_ME Well-Known Member

    Yeah, I've lost interest in a lot of things I used to enjoy....drawing, playing computer games, swimming, hell sometimes even browsing the internet just doesn't seem as appealing to me anymore....*sigh* I know what it's like to be a pleasure....not even sadness....just plain.....emptiness
  12. blueman

    blueman Well-Known Member

    Yeah, that broken-down robot feeling, emotionless and motionless! I feel that an awful lot. My medication and counselling has at least stopped me feeling suicidal so I'm off the danger list now, but depression is still very much within me. I don't know if people think I use this as an excuse to do simply nothing at all, but I know the truth and that is, I WISH I had the strength, the power, the motivation, the life in me to do something more than just feed myself rubbish food to keep me ticking over.
  13. confuzzle

    confuzzle Well-Known Member

    I remember a time where I never even wanted to get out of bed.
    It's hard to get through, but it is possible.
    What I did is i just talked to people, and it had a good effect of just purging alot of the crap out of my head, at least for the while.
    Eventually, the desire to go play games came back, so im thankful for that.
    Also, therapy i think is helping.
  14. blueman

    blueman Well-Known Member

    I agree Mark, I was at that stage I couldn't get myself out of bed. My wife would hand me my phone so I could txt her (because I couldn't even be bothered to call to talk!) while she went off to work. Eventually I started picking up the phone and calling, she would listen for as long as possible, even if most of the time I'd nothing to say.
    Eventually I ventured out of the apartment for the first time to go to the doctor across the road and tell him what I was feeling. That was just the beginning of a long line of treatment, not particularly from him but he referred me to the right specialists.
    I'm convinced I would not be here today, spending time to write so much on this forum as I have been doing this past week or two, had I not received help from my wife and from the doctor/specialists.

    ....and no, I'm not writing from my bedroom, I got up at 9am, had a shower, dressed, made breakfast, did some housework, paperwork and now here I am in the study!

    There is help out there for everyone. Seriously, you just need to call out for it and accept it, don't try to shun every treatment just because it's not a magic wand that miraculously dissolves all your darkness and despair instantly!
  15. Marissa

    Marissa Well-Known Member

    Thanks so much everyone, for your help and understanding! It's given me hope that one day I'll be my old self again.
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