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lack of sex is making me suicidal

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by 1993, Mar 15, 2015.

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  1. 1993

    1993 Member

    For starters, I should mention I am 23 and male. I'm not a virgin, but I haven't had sex in over 2 years. I'm not going to kill myself in the immediate future. But if my dry spell goes on for too long, I might eventually consider suicide.

    My reasons are twofold. One, I physically enjoy the sex itself. But secondly, I also enjoy the emotional aspect of sex. It feels good when a female thinks I'm worthy of being her partner. And its depressing to see other people getting sex with ease while I couldn't find a partner if my life depended on it.

    I realize no one is obligated to have sex with me. But it makes me feel like an unwanted monster when no one is willing to get with me.

    I am good looking but other than that I don't have a whole lot going for me. I met all my previous partners online. I don't have the social skills to find a partner the traditional way. And I've been trying the online route lately, but even that doesn't work for me anymore.

    Anyway, I had to get these thoughts out there. And this is the best site I could think of to post such a thing.
  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hi 1993,

    Glad you signed up here instead of doing harm to yourself. Wanting sex isn't being unreasonable, it is normal although to be fair i am female and don't give sex a second thought.

    I do get what you're saying and why you're saying it. Most humans want and crave physical contact at some point in their lives. The best advice I can give you is to wait until you fall in love again and not go for hook ups to enjoy the physical contact. You have met people online before and you can do so again. Go for it :) No giving up.
  3. sweetles

    sweetles Well-Known Member

    I recommend seeking out an independent escort, mid-late 20s, online on a good escort review website. Choose carefully, and ideally see the same girl 2 or 3 times. A girlfriend experience, as its called. This will address your immediate need for intimate contact, but more importantly help build up your confidence and comfort level with women.then you will be better equipped to seek out the real thing.
  4. Luie

    Luie Well-Known Member

    Y'know if you're into kinky stuff there's an entire community of people that get together routinely for a good time. Plenty of parties too.
  5. Tjh

    Tjh Active Member

    I'm 24 and in the same boat as you, 1993. I wouldn't say lack of companionship is the reason for my suicidal feelings, but it's definitely a factor. I'm also a good looking dude, but lack of social skills due to bullying and social isolation growing up seems to hold me back from finding friends, let alone a girlfriend. I know that I need to improve my social skills and in turn my confidence to better my chances of finding a girl, but that easier said than done, unfortunately. Hang in there, mate, and just know that you're not the only dude in this situation.
  6. Bruces

    Bruces Well-Known Member

    I've not had sex in over 2 years and I've accepted now that I'll never have another intimate relationship but to be honest it's the least of my problems
  7. Travsmate

    Travsmate Member

    Hi guys,

    I am actually the parallel opposite to both of you; I am A-Sexual which may or may not be playing a part in my depression.

    My sex drive is ridiculously low and I do not have a gender which I am attracted to - So I couldn't possibly say I can relate.

    All I can do is encourage -

    1993 - My best bet is to put yourself out there either through your local newspaper or online; The possibilities are endless and what you are after is just around the corner.

    Tjh - Social skills is also a big problem for me my best bet is to join some sort of social group which will improve your confidence in knots around people which will give you plenty of encouragement.
  8. 1993

    1993 Member

    OK, so I took a poster's advice and saw an escort. And now I can't believe lack of sex ever made me suicidal. But now there's another thing going on in my life which is giving me suicidal thoughts. Should I start a new thread or discuss it on this thread?
  9. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Member Safety & Support SF Supporter

    Hi there, yeah sure start a new thread that would be handier for everyone reading too. Sorry you didn't have such a good experience but also glad you know now its not the be all and end all.
  10. 1993

    1993 Member

    Just to clarify, I didn't have a bad experience with the escort. The new thing that's making me suicidal has nothing to do with the escort or sex. In any case, I will start a thread about the new topic.
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