Ladies, what do you find attractive in men?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by ExtraSoap, Nov 27, 2011.

  1. ExtraSoap

    ExtraSoap Well-Known Member

    Ex) honesty, looks, confidence, etc.

    I need to know what the hell im doing wrong.
  2. Nyu

    Nyu Well-Known Member

    Confidence, takes care of themselves, kind, easygoing, unique and open minded. Those are a few things I look for but everyone's different I suppose. Hope I helped :)
  3. ExtraSoap

    ExtraSoap Well-Known Member

    i guess you did, but i am all those except confident. i just dont understand why im not attractive i guess, i dont know how i am looks-wise, and im not that confident, but i'm a genuinely nice guy, what am i doing wrong?
  4. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    Authentic...everything else looks the same with the lights off
  5. gloomy

    gloomy Account Closed

    Every time I ask this question, I never like the answers I hear… mostly because I never feel like I fit anyone's description. I guess that's why I stopped asking it.

    If it makes you feel better, sometimes people think they know what they want even though the reality can be different.

    Also, when people get older they get less demanding-- younger people tend to be extremely full of themselves… women moreso than men, but not necessarily by a lot. I think it's getting worse, actually…
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  6. Terry

    Terry Antiquities Friend Staff Alumni

    Well, I always had a penchant for tall dark and handsome (like most women I should imagine) :laugh: but here's the rub, we had a guy working with us who was short, sallow skinned (he was greek) terrible teeth, huge nose and reasonably bad skin.
    Every girl, bar none, wanted to go out with him.
    And why, because he was the funniest, nicest person you could wish to meet!
    He also seemed to have that illusive thing called sex appeal :blink:

    Yes, confidence goes a long way, tho it can slip into arrogance, which no one finds attractive.
    Someone who really wants to hear what you are saying and cares about you as a person, rather than a quick lay, always goes down well too.
    But for me, you can make me laugh, I'm yours :laugh:
  7. ZasuArt

    ZasuArt Well-Known Member

    A compulsion to do yard work and home/auto repairs without a desire for or expection of payment beyond the occasional hot meal and intelligent conversation! :laugh:
  8. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    Weird as shit, while preferably having the ability to keep it under wraps when it serves his interests. Kindness. Respect. Appreciates. Being absolutely hilarious. Perspective, direction of some sort, good travel partner. His scent I guess, even though I don't want to reproduce or anything....
  9. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    A good sense of humour, honesty and someone who isn't too afraid to be sensitive and talk about the deeper stuff. Those are the main things.
  10. Brandt

    Brandt Well-Known Member

    I'm not a female but I hear confidence is a big deal to most women, unfortunately for me I have little confidence in myself and I'm positive that comes out in body language.
  11. Kristie

    Kristie Active Member

    A sense of humor is a must and the ability to laugh at ones self helps too.
  12. Sais

    Sais Well-Known Member

    an interesting mind served with a nice smile
  13. oval

    oval Well-Known Member

    i dont like confidence at all. i like shyness, modesty, clumsyness, humor (definitely humor. dry or dark humor is very apreciated as well),authenticity, honesty, intelligence and being affectionate
  14. SaraRose

    SaraRose Well-Known Member

    Someone with an open mind, who is caring and able to decide for himself (one big turnoff is when someone has to ask their parents to do something- if you're over 18 you should be able to decide something small on your own).

    Otherwise it just depends on the person.
  15. justMe7

    justMe7 Well-Known Member

    Funny thing is, most "honest" people just want "honest" people. I'm not a girl, but I do know it helps to see the bright side of situations, and not get sucked into them. But be able to talk on a deeper level, aswell as respecting the person whom youre talking to is a real plus and changes things from being that light hearted positive friend to something a bit more trusting. And above all, I reckon most people, like someone who can appricate the moment and understands that fine balance of going with the flow and making a flow.
  16. ExtraSoap

    ExtraSoap Well-Known Member

    That's the thing that's eating me up, I tend to be a bit of a smartass, I'm kinda shy, I don't like bragging, but I'm not clumsy per se.

    This is so damn confusing... :sigh: