Large Breasted Women

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Prof.Bruttenholm, Oct 1, 2010.

  1. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    This post probably attracted guys first and thats fine, but this post will be for both genders

    I chose my title because it would get attention, because it does.
    Women are often objectified, but none more commonly than that of a woman with an ample chest. They're objectified, insulted, persecuted and abused, for what? Simply because they have developed more or more quickly, than other girls.
    Now, I am not here to rant about large breasted women, but rather, all women and men.
    Women are objectified and they shouldnt be, they're human beings with thoughts and feelings.
    That said, women; you're not idiots and while some men are, not all of us are and we're not all only interested in sex.

    And men; understand that women can be just as sexual as you but they have greater self-control when it comes to those urges, be patient and kind, confident and dependable.

    Sex isnt the only that matters in this world, it can help a relationship and hurt it, but it is not the only that matters.

    Women; if guys stare at your chest, its unfortunately because of how they grew up, more often than not its from parents or older siblings who simply understood the wrong stuff.
    Men; eye contact.

    But I'm sure you've all heard this before, some of the women may be wondering 'how the heck do you know so much' or rather 'where do you get off?'
    Well, I am not a woman, but I do understand some of the crap you have to deal with, for example ; puberty almost always before boys, menstrual cycles, emotional range of a rainbow, the curse of early development, some girls are jealous of other girls and can cause fighting, even ruin friendships and I know most of all, how it feels to develop early and be awkward.
    See, I was nearly 6 feet tall when I was about 10, I was still a kid and yet people mistook me for older, I was treated different, I felt awkward everywhere I went.
    So dont ever say I dont understand, I may never understand it all, but I understand some.
     
  2. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    well all I can say is that when I was a teen, I remember walking down the street with a friend, some soccer team had won so there were lots of people and this group of guy were walking in our direction so then this guys yells "Oh my god! look at her huge boobs hahahahaha" and I remember feeling so embarrassed and upset...but I always had big boobs so...I guess I got used to it, now I barely notice anyone looking there...

    I mean its a free country, they can look all they want, my shirt won't magically disappear and they will probably NEVER see my boobs in real life so...dream on little boy, dream on....
     
  3. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    High five! I've met a few women like you, confident and adjusted.
    But you're lucky, there are some girls who grow up, develop early and end up awkward and even socially rejected because of it, I know a girl who has an ample chest and was made fun of, hurt and ridiculed all through high school.
     
  4. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    I was more made fun of because I was overweight than my boobs...and until very recently had a big problem with showing myself...I used to wear layers and layers of clothes to hide...but I dunno, this summer was different, maybe I just don't care anymore and if they aren't happy, they can look away...wasn't always like that so I understand what you mean...
     
  5. Daijou

    Daijou Well-Known Member

    Lol, this reminds me a lot of my friend and I.
    We'll be driving down the street or something, and we'll go by a hot looking girl.
    His response: stare at her chest/butt as we drive past the entire time. Nothing subtle about it.
    Mine: maybe a quick glance, nothing more.

    The difference I've found is that some guys see women as objects, not people.
    Or at least until they speak to them meet them face to face. Then they'll probably throw on an act until they get that person in bed.
    I hate that fact, and that I'll sometimes get lumped in with that group of people when others make assumptions about me.
    I feel everyone should be treated with respect regardless of their body, and that in no way means staring at every woman that goes by.
     
  6. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry to hear that.

    Another unfortunate thing is that some guys believe large breasts equate to beauty. Now, living in my own world, I'm sure you're gorgeous but you also know there are some guys out there who'll look at your chest and try to lay down some dumb line like "hey pretty lady" all the while ogling your breasts.

    As for objectifying women, women have done it too, its just infrequent compared to when men do it. What some people dont know is, men can be and often are just as sensitive as women, they're just afraid to show it.
    If more men talked openly, there wouldnt be such idiotic television shows as 'Manswers' or others like it.

    But another point I'd like to make, towards women; give guys a chance.
    I'm not saying date every guy who approaches you but some guy might approach you, be shy, nervous or not so great at getting his words across, but give him the chance. Confidence or even conveying it can be difficult with guys and the more a guy may like you, the harder it may be for him to get his point across.
     
  7. Em1

    Em1 Member

    Well, here i never thought a thread would be made for this reason.

    I developed early never really noticed that the girls my age weren't always assumed they were going through what i was i was very comfortable when i was younger untill we moved away from where we were staying. new school new group of girls. bearing in mind no matter where i was i liked being the outcast i saw what the other girl's spent their time doing and i hated getting into those conversations. unfortunatly being alone also ment i was those conversation, i spent most of my time being with adults it was much easier, when i was 10 i made a friend of the next door neighbors doughter who was 24 but had a disability which gave her the kind of mind of 15 her brother used to baby sit me, that was before we found out why he liked it so much. i was sexually abused for 2 years without knowing it. now well i stay away from the guys who only see my chest since i know what they are after. i'm 17 now and happy in a way with who i am and the experiances i have been through may be a learning curve of sorts but at least i know the tye when i see them and know exactly what i should do. i still atract older guys and in a way i'm more comfortable with them that guys my age, i matured alot quicker than those in school and i'm enjoying collage and meeting people and i have a boyfriend of 22 years old. he respects me and helps me.
     
  8. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    This isn't true. Men stare at female chests because breasts are evolutionarily designed to attract attention.
     
  9. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    For this post, I can relate once more, when I was very young I was sexually abused, but by a family member, most of my mind blocked it out but it still affected me greatly. I also end up maturing faster and because of how I grew physically, I looked older, hung out with older people and found myself relating to adults better than kids my age.

    We can make that argument, but we cant simply blame evolution on everything, young pubescent guys are also commonly exposed to pornography and other material that emphasizes the superficial, including large bosoms.
    Men can learn not to stare.

    Another thing that makes me mad, judgment of women over their past choices.
    In a middle school, I wont tell you who or where, but a woman was working as a cafeteria lunch lady and was found to have worked in porn, she was fired because of that and I found out later, ended up returning to porn because of it.
    Why? Her past is her business and she was clearly trying to start a new life, that isnt fair to her.
     
  10. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    Larger chest sizes run in the family on my mothers side, and sadly being one of a very small frame, it means that they tend to stick out more so they're a lot more noticeable as compared to my mother, sister, nan, etc., who are bigger boned than I am. I wasn't ever taunted at school for it - in fact quite the opposite. I was taunted at school for having a flat chest, as I didn't properly develop until I was 15 and by that time I was used to wearing baggy clothes, so people weren't able to see them anyway. It became a bit of a problem during Sixth Form when my male friends began to notice and took an 'interest' in me, to the point that one even threatened to jump off a bridge if I didn't date him. I don't have as much trouble with it now, as I barely ever leave the house, but when people see pictures of me or on the rare occasions I do leave the house (or some relatives visit) it can get uncomfortable. Because I look a lot younger than I actually am (I look around 15 but am actually 20) I get a lot of unwanted attention from older men, especially on dating sites.

    I know you say that not all men are inclined to be perverts or only want one thing from girls (especially those with a bigger chest) but it can be hard to believe that when most of the attention garnered from males in response to it is negative.
     
  11. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    I can understand that.
    Its a hard concept to accept when so many men, especially those on line are degenerate perverts or try to make excuses for themselves.

    I'm sorry things are so hard for you Avarice and I'm sorry I was a bit of a jerk when we were talking between PMs, you're kind, patient and I didnt appreciate that then as I do now, I hope you can forgive me, but if not, its fine, I'm a guy, I'm stupid and am doomed to be so forever.
     
  12. Daijou

    Daijou Well-Known Member

    I think that may have more to do with the type of people that are giving the attention.
    Shy people, based on my own experiences, have a harder time giving attention. And I doubt I would ogle a girl's chest since that's not top priority to me.
    I'm actually a sucker for a good smile (shh, don't tell anyone my weakness D: ), but personality is more important than physical appearance.
    But then there are the more extroverted guys that don't care and only have sex on the mind. These are the ones you seem to be most familiar with, and that's just because they're the ones with more nerve to give some sort of attention, which usually tends to be the negative kind.

    I'm sorry you have to deal with that, but rest assured there are some good guys out there, as hard to believe as it is. :)
     
  13. Mikeintx

    Mikeintx Well-Known Member

    Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
     
  14. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    If you're laughing at women, what people have had to deal with or basically anything posted so far.
    Go to hell.
     
  15. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    You don't need to apologise about that at all - I realise things were hard for you at the time (perhaps still are) and don't blame you for it, nor do I think you were a jerk. I can only apologise for not continuing with my responses further. I'd gotten to a point where I wasn't up for social contact and I wasn't sure what to say anymore! You shouldn't be so hard on yourself, though. I'd be more than happy to talk again. :]

    I can see where you're coming from - in fact I'm not sure there even is such a thing as a 'positive' reaction to something like this, apart from ignoring it, which as far as reactions go, isn't all that noticeable as compared to the guys that stare or make comments. Bleh, sucks that the more confident, shameless guys ruin things for other people. >__<

    Ah, it's okay, I've kinda gotten used to it. Just sucks the good guys like to hide.
     
  16. Prof.Bruttenholm

    Prof.Bruttenholm Well-Known Member

    I guess I'll speak on guys behalf.

    There are some nice guys out there, who dont want just sex or women for just one aspect of their bodies.
    I want a girl who is smart, not necessarily a genius but enjoys a good conversation, knows what she likes, enjoys cuddling and just being together.

    But I am shy, I used to stare but not as much as before, but shyness was always my first sign of affection, unfortunately it goes unnoticed, its quiet and hard to notice.
    I'm able to put up a good facade but deep down I am soft.

    There are plenty of guys out there, they're just not as easy to find as a-holes, perverts, jerks and losers.
    Those guys are a dime a dozen, but the guys who'll spend time with you, listen to you, those guys are out there and they're worth their weight in gold, because they'll appreciate you.

    God that made me sound so corny...sorry. I've never been good at getting a point across :(