Well, there's a least three of us struggling. It's really hard, I've been trying for years. I wasn't hurt but it's complicated. I tend to obsess over people who don't like me, asking myself, why, going over and over things but over the years of dealing with these things, I can say there is no real answer. Maybe it will help to focus on their negative traits if that makes sense? When you fall in love that bond is so hard to break even when bad things happen. I would say, find reasons to be grateful you are free of them. They hurt you, they might have subjected you to even more hurt if you stayed. I don't know your situation but usually there is a reason you are not together (I don't mean anyone's fault but that if you believe in fate, it wasn't meant to be) and find ways to distract yourself, get out and meet people if possible. Is there still a connection between you since you mentioned legal stuff? How long ago is it since it happened?