lectured by psych about eating/ anybody had to do puzzles?

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  1. downunder

    downunder Well-Known Member

    The shrink asked me what I had to eat in the last few days. I told her not much then I also told her I hadn't eaten in 21 days, she started lecturing me, then she told me that she was starting to sound like my mother!!!

    I am over 30!!! The whole time she was lecturing me about the perils of not eating I just had the biggest smile on my face, because I really don't care, she might as well have been talking to my hand. I am seeing her not because of an eating disorder but because of suicidal feelings caused by loss of my daughter and workplace stresses. I also felt quite embarrased talking about it because it has really never come up in conversation before.

    She also mentioned that if she gave me some puzzles to do that I wouldn't be able to do them because I wouldn't have the concentration levels. I asked her if it was the ones where you put a square peg in a round hole, she said it was one of them. I love doing puzzles etc.

    Anybody here had to do puzzles for the shrink?

    I enjoy not eating, I see it as a challenge and I love seeing the weight coming off. I told her I actually feel better when I am not eating. I told her that I don't even feel hunger anymore, and I like not feeling hungry.

    I know this is not normal, but I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke. Everyone has their vices.

    She asked me what I weighed and said she would like to see me with a few more kilos on. I think I will be wearing baggy clothes in next time, but she can see the weight loss in my face.

    I have also noticed that she has a set of scales in her office near a chair.
  2. downunder

    downunder Well-Known Member

    She has now requested that I go and get a blood test.
  3. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    Everyone has their vices, but few produce the same damage starving your body does. It's not just calories, you can go without those, my concern would be nutrients, which have a major effect on organs, bones, and your brain. The fact that you feel better by not eating sounds extremely pathological to me. That is not healthy behaviour.

    I'm guessing that if you do it regularly, though, you could handle concentration puzzles quite well. And you can't put a square peg in a round hole! That's the point of the puzzle!

    Psychiatrists do not treat individual problems. They treat you as a whole.

    Generally, suicidal feelings aren't generated by individual issues - most people would feel grief and stress due to those, respectively. But not suicidal. You shouldn't waste your time or money going to a psychiatrist just to avoid dealing with your problems.
  4. downunder

    downunder Well-Known Member

    I am not avoiding dealing with my problems. Obviously you are not a mother who has lost a child so you know nothing about it. Also I am not paying to go, work is paying. It is quite common to have suicidal feeling in relation to loss of a child, my mother has had them, so has my husband.
  5. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    My mother has lost two children, and I was her source of emotional support. I know how this goes.

    You're clearly avoiding dealing with your issues. My therapist lectures me -for wearing sandals in the cold-. She would just about kill me if I was starving myself. Therapists have to help every part of you or no part of you can get better.
  6. Oak

    Oak Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    I understand where you come from having loss children myself. The aftermath of it has brought me to become suicidal and my husband went
    into depression himself. Life had lost its meaning and to be honest years later the dealing with it has never foud an end. The loss remains vivid
    and thinking of them brings me back each time to become depressed with suicidal thoughts. They say that time heals all wounds but from personal experience, as children are not meant to leave before their parents, we never completely heal but some find ways to cope. i didnt. each year is a mess on their anniversary. my heart is out to you down and hope you find a different way to deal with your loss. i'm without appetite and can go days without eating so i guess its a side effect of our loss but not a compensation as we dont feed ourselves properly.

    lots of love and please stay safe and healthy.
    granny xox
  7. downunder

    downunder Well-Known Member

    Thanx for you post Granny, as someone who has gone through this you understand. We went to another funeral today, it was my husband's sister, she died of cancer. She did a reading at my daughter's funeral.

    It does feel as though life has lost its meaning and you are just merely existing. I am working in another less stressful department now so I don't have this particular person continually yelling at me all the time over trivial things. I feel more relaxed and the people I work with are much happier and more fun.

    The shrink again lectured me about eating, I told her she might as well talk to my hand, she thought I was trying to punish myself, I told her I wasn't. She did laugh when I mentioned the "hand" but she looks thin herself, I think this must be a "soap box" topic for her. She even mentioned that she did not want to harp on about it. I went for kidney surgery about 3 years ago, and none of the doctors there even mentioned my low weight, I am only a few kilo's under what I should be.
  8. downunder

    downunder Well-Known Member

    Saw her again today, more lectures!!!! She says I am fading before her eyes and she can see my weight loss through my face and neck. She wants me to gain 5kg. I am not ready to do that. She even asked me if I knew what a BMI was?? Err duh. Then she told what I could eat etc and how to eat healthy, doesn't she realise most people who don't eat properly are experts on what to eat.

    Get this she even weighed herself on the scales, she is similar to my height, and she weighed 67kg, I told her she should do something about it. ) I can be very cheeky at times. I weigh 55kg.

    My bmi is 17.6 and she thinks anyone with a bmi below 18 has an eating disorder. I told I am happy at this weight and also when I have been before doctors before such as when I got my kidney operated on they never even mentioned it.

    My blood tests came back as normal.
  9. Dying inside

    Dying inside Member

    i am really sorry to hear about the loss of ur daughter and the loss of your husbands sister and i cant imagine what u are going thro :(
    however i do have experience with not eating and ur right its not a disorder as some people try to say but if ur not eating then id advise to take plenty of vitamins etc as ur body needs them
    i hope that u start to feel a little better soon :hug:
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