lesbian... is there a hope for me...?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by ba51th, Apr 25, 2014.

  1. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

    I want to talk to lesbian about my problem... but... I'm a bit scare and shy...


    1) lesbians... what's your opinion about women that penetrate men?

    2) do you like to peg men? why?

    3) if yes, would you have a lifetime relationship with a man if it's okay for him that pegging is the only kind of sex he get and the only way for him to get orgasm?

    I'm asking these question because I found this...




    thank you for your attention and your reply...
  2. Twocky61

    Twocky61 Banned Member

    Well ba51th I'm a guy so unable to answer those intriguing questions of yours

    Anyway....just replied really to say of course there is hope for you

  3. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

    no, there is no hope for a man that have a small penis like me to be with normal straight women...
  4. Freya

    Freya Loves SF Staff Member ADMIN

    I am not a lesbian but I am bewildered as to why you are directing your question at lesbians. If you feel that a man like you has no hope to be with a normal straight woman, then directing your questions to women who, by definition, are not attracted to men seems like an odd choice.

    I will say this (speaking as a woman who enjoys sex with both men and women) - a penis is not the be all and end all of sex. An open mind, a desire to please, a good sex toy store and you are set. There are plenty of open minded women out there happy to find and give in a whole variety of ways.
  5. Kobosis

    Kobosis Member

    There is always someone out there for you my friend, not matter how dark things get, you just have to pull through and you will come out the other side a stronger more confident man..
  6. CD110

    CD110 Well-Known Member

    Sounds good Freya. It's a minor hangup of mine as well. I have heard accounts of guys being traumatized by being humiliated by the girl in their first sexual experience, but those must be the minority and they probably went looking in the wrong places. Not that I would know, I've yet to have my first.
  7. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

  8. Freya

    Freya Loves SF Staff Member ADMIN

    If you go looking for problems you will find them. Regardless of your complaint. I just had a quick Google around and the things cited as cause for a shitty sex life in three minutes of Googling include:

    His ticklishness
    Her invisible clitoris
    Her weight
    Her ipad
    His back hair
    Her mum
    Our height difference
    Her panting
    His donkey snorting
    Dribbling (?!)

    You get the idea. But since you are apparently determined to insist this is an insurmountable issue, I will get a bit more personal and detailed. So brace yourselves for a little TMI.

    Two of the last three people I slept with had penises around the size of my thumb. I am a girl. I do not have especially large hands. I can assure you that I did not laugh/ridicule/point/stare/complain/leave etc etc etc. Fun was had. I was satisfied. Everyone went home happy.

    There are many many MANY ways to enjoy sex regardless of... pretty much any 'shortcoming' you can imagine. But the absolute cast iron guaranteed way to ruin it for everyone involved is to focus on the potential problems. Focus instead on the potential pleasure and how to achieve it. Communicate. Go shopping. Stop doing Google searches looking for people who are also focused on 'the problem'.
  9. CD110

    CD110 Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the encouragement once again, Freya. Think I'll have a proper go at it before devolving into self-pity and hoping some girl takes mercy on me. Eh, the way I look and act I'll probably need that anyway. Man, I'll be such a fish out of water. Whatever ba51th is like, his odds probably look a lot better than mine. But stop beating yourself up, man, and stop reading those websites. I know, self-pity tastes bittersweet, but put that aside 'till you know the score. We'll never know 'till we've tried.

    But it's obvious the entertainment industry is having a perfidious effect on body image and expectations for both genders. Loathsome and depressing to think about.
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  10. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

    I don't really care about my penis anymore... vaginal intercourse turn me off... fellatio turn me off... all porn that involve penis turn me off...
  11. Freya

    Freya Loves SF Staff Member ADMIN

    Then that is a different problem entirely. Frankly if you are turned off by pleasuring a woman, then yes you do have a problem when it comes to women. I find it unlikely that a woman would be satisfied by a sex life that involves "pegging" you and nothing for them in return. This issue is obviously causing you some distress or you would not be writing about it here; I recommend that you get a therapist and work with them on this problem.
  12. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

    I see... vaginal intercourse/penis is the only way/tool to please women...

    so... you hate me, don't you... you hate me, a man that have a small penis... I said that it is the only kind of sex that I get, not the only way for them to gain pleasure... but you just jump into conclusion... if I have no urge/desire to please women, I will never have problem with my penis in the first place! I can just pay hooker to please me!
  13. Freya

    Freya Loves SF Staff Member ADMIN

    Of course I do not hate you - why would I hate you? I honestly really think that if this is giving you such an issue you should see a therapist because you deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling relationship and currently this issue is preventing that from occurring.
  14. CD110

    CD110 Well-Known Member

    I just had a dream that I had an extra set of genitals in a strange place and then I grew another schlong under my real one. Yeah, I don't think I need an interpreter, I got this one. I don't think most girls realize just how sensitive a topic this is, it seems that even when you've come to grips with it the subconscious might still not be at ease.
  15. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Quieta non movere

    Okay. Humans come in all kinds of sizes and shapes. No one is expected to be the same. The game of finding the right fit can be more difficult for some and easy with others. Its all because of luck. So whatever floats your boat that other half is out there so be more positive and never say never. We do change over time too. What you may like now you may not be into it tomorrow. What you disliked before, you love it now. We are just human beings.
  16. Lazarus102

    Lazarus102 Member

    I'm a bit confused.. You don't like vaginal intercourse or porn that involves cock. So you just want a girl to use toys on you? If it wasn't for not liking porn with cocks I'd say there's a good chance that you're gay.
  17. ba51th

    ba51th Well-Known Member

    gay are men that attracted to men. and I am a man that attracted to women...