I am visiting my elder sister since 2 days. Yesterday, because it's been 3 years she's living in her new appartement, I told her she should throw away the old carton box that are in the middle of the kitchen and that I could help her if she wants. I know she's not super happy living on her own since she broke up with her boyfriend 5 years ago. She went some times to live with my mother and finally got herself an appartement. Sorry what I mean is that I know it's not easy for her to move in which is why I try to help. She left the kitchen where I was cooking dinner and after 5 minutes I went to check on her and she was crying. I tried to ask her what was wrong though I had my suspicions. To make it short she told me it was easy for me to critizise. That anyway she didn't care about the place. That she hated to have people come trying to help her. That we (the family) are just selfish and careless and that we only come to help and that we didn't love her. And then telling that her life was horrible and that it was over and that she was barely baring with everyday ... and well mostly that everything was wrong. So well, if I am here it's because I go through really hard times myself but in my family I can't tell anyone because somehow my elder sister already got the job of the depressive one. SOmetimes it really get on my nerves because everyone try to help and she's never able to see it or to feel a bit happy about it. I know happinness doesn't come that easy but somtimes I feel she's so unfair. She has a job. With a shitty boss but a decent job in soemthing she choosed. ANd then she say , it's not enough I want more but she isn't doing that much for it. SHe has a boyfriend (though she choose a depressive type too ... ) but she complains he doesn't want to live with her (I also think he should decide something at that point but obviously he won't) so she stays with him and say she has no choice anyway. SHe has a family that come to help her evrytime we can but she thinks we are selfish. She has a home that is hers but she doesn't like it. I know that's not enough to make someone happy but she wants more but she doesn't even take care of what she has. I don't know what to do to make her realise that all she worries about she could do something to change it. That complaining about it won't make it change. THat it's not even that important. I don't know how to explain this. I am pretty broken to and listening to her complaining about everything, about me, about us and crying ... I know she borrow and didn't refund 300$ to my mother also because she's always scared she will need money. Not that she was needing that money to live. Just so she hasorney ... just in case. She doesn't do it to steal. But all this turns her into a shitty personn, hateful, bitter, unfair and now taking money from her family( I mean the bank would be okay but her family v_v) I don't know what to do anymore. It's like I am no use but I don't know what to do.