Living life without friends?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Otakuboy, Nov 28, 2011.

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  1. Otakuboy

    Otakuboy New Member

    I have difficulty having friends, although from the outside I seem like a happy and fun loving guy in the inside it's just as if I can't relate to anybody or as if I cannot share my feelings with someone else, as if they won't understand. I've been alone throughout my school life with a very limited amount of friends yet I seem to be fine with that. But I sometimes wish I had the life of an average person, sometimes I wish I was born as an average person and don't have to go through the loneliness that I have. What can I do to rid myself of these thoughts?
  2. nolonger

    nolonger Well-Known Member

    i just have like an online friend or so. couple of real life acquantinces(spelling) but thats it. i play online games so i talk to people through there mainly.
  3. TheBLA

    TheBLA Well-Known Member

    I think I have been fine for a long time with very few friends because of living with my immediate family and having a good relationship with them for the most part. I haven't felt the need for friends with them always to keep me company, etc.

    Once I leave my parents and little brother, and am out in this cruel world by myself, I think I will be more miserable than I already am without friends for support. I don't think I'd be able to survive very long at all without committing suicide in the process. That's where I think I will finally get a pet, probably a cat or dog as one of my "friends".
  4. LiquidSoap

    LiquidSoap Member

    I only have a couple, maybe two close friends who I seldom see, Too much worries in my life to worry about anything else like that, plus trust issues so.
    Things may change.
  5. Sardaukar

    Sardaukar Well-Known Member

    dude, now you have one more friend :)
  6. Jungle420

    Jungle420 Banned Member

    I live in ilsolation. I get to speak about 0-5 words a day, every single day to parents who dont understand me, dont care and constantly are on my case. I have a upbringing and live in surroundings that turn people into mass murderers. Not that I have any intention of ever doing that, but that's how bad it is. The loneliness is pretty unbearable and i only have a tv and Computer every day to try and distract my mind. Ive never had a real friend in my life.
  7. reynard_muldrake

    reynard_muldrake Well-Known Member

    I only have one close friend in real life. She's a great person to converse and spend time with, but I still feel my social life is incredibly empty. I'll admit to not minding this at first, but lately it's been bothering the hell out of me. Even on websites like this I have difficulties bonding with people. I really don't understand why that is.

    ETA: Please don't say I should be grateful I have that one close friend. That doesn't help and quite frankly, it comes off as belittling.
  8. In a Lonely Place

    In a Lonely Place Well-Known Member

    I have zero friends and at 39yrs old that ain't gonna change. I've never been married or had kids so I have nothing in common with most people my age. I have anxiety and social phobias so I wouldn't be much fun to hang out with anyways lol
  9. MorganaNever

    MorganaNever Well-Known Member

    Well what do you feel stops you from having them? Is it just that you don't need them and don't want to get close that way, or do you feel no one wants to get close to you that way?

    I don't have any friends and I used to. You perceive things in an interesting way for a while without any... but it also hurts. I wish so badly to have a true friend once again but I also became different trough the isolation and it is very hard for me to connect.
  10. MorganaNever

    MorganaNever Well-Known Member

    Mark101, maybe life without marriage and kids is something perfect for you. I don't know, but I don't think it's something that works for everyone. The only question is, do you want friends or anything. People every age are different and I am sure lots of people who also suffer from anxiety and social phobias would rather have someone like you to talk to then someone who doesn't understand them at all.
  11. In a Lonely Place

    In a Lonely Place Well-Known Member

    I would have liked friends for sure but as I say I can't socialise a great deal and yeah in a perfect world you'd find people that also have problems so you wouldn't be viewed as a freak. I always wanted children as a younger man but it's just not gonna happen now as il never get out to meet anybody so it's not a case of not wanting family or friends,just not being able to have them.
  12. b-rock

    b-rock Well-Known Member

    I defiantly stopped making friends awhile ago and it does kind of sucks not being able to meet new people as easily. Yeah, and as of recently i am no longer friends with my best friend as we got in a fist fight when i was pissed drunk and he messed my chops up pretty good. Wasn't sad though since my sis. passed recently. You guys should join a gym or join a kickboxing/jui-jitsu/boxing/yoga class. It is easy to meet new people at the gym and as long as you remain friendly and say hi you can meet a lot of new people. Also, going to the gym gives people common ground to relate too and makes it easier to do small talk. Most of all it is about putting your name out there.
  13. gloomy

    gloomy Account Closed

    I used to think that I'd come out of my shell eventually… the closest I ever got was living in residence during my first year of university… but after that things just went downhill and I kept having problems… and I kept moving around too, which didn't help. If I put together all the friends I've ever had, then it would be quite a few… but I haven't been able to keep any of them for various reasons.

    So yeah, even though I've moved around quite a bit I guess I've been lucky to always meet people who I could have considered friends... but I've still never actually gotten to the point where things like jobs and money and distance didn't completely kill any desire they might have had to spend time with me. I'm also kind of choosy… I'm not one of those people who can just be friends with anyone, so the whole idea of bonding just because someone has similar issues to mine isn't going to work… I'm always willing to give it a go but sometimes it's just not worth it. I was officially diagnosed with severe social phobia a while ago and even though things obviously aren't normal for me I've still managed to push past it all and not come off as a total dork all the time…

    But right now is probably the loneliest I've been in a very long time-- since maybe when I was 11 or 12 and everybody basically sucked. I think I can take only a little more of this before I hit my breaking point… I'm starting to realize that there were quite a few of those places I've lived in where I should have tried harder to make more of a go of it…
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