Living with a small tool!

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by HaveNot, Oct 20, 2009.

  1. HaveNot

    HaveNot Active Member

    I guess my problem of having a small penis was taken too far because my previous thread titled "Living with a small tool" was deleted by <name removed>, a moderator here. I don't understand why someone would do that because I think it helps alot when people read about your problems and are willing to discuss it. This isn't something that I'm willing to go talk to someone face to face about. I also need to see what post exactly made you delete my thread. That would explain alot more, because you just make me really want to kill myself now (literally)! Its kind of stupid because your reason for deleting it was because it was talking about 'sex'. Look through all the pages in this forum and tell me that most of the subject discussed here are not talking about sex.

    And on a good note to those people who replied kindly and with sincerity to my deleted thread, thank you very much for understanding me and my problem. And on that note I'll leave my stats once again for those who wanted to know: I'm 5.5" x 5.0".

    I guess I don't understand why you deleted my thread and I might be rambling out of anger here because I'm in distress. But I hope you understand <name removed>, there things that I need to get off of my chest and out of my life for good. Being suicidal is one thing, but not being able to express why your suicidal in a public forum is just ridiculous!
     
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  2. *sparkle*

    *sparkle* Staff Alumni

    HaveNot. if you have a problem re the forum why not post in letters to the management. please don't blame any member here of making you want to kill yourself - that's really not acceptable. we are here to support people and the staff keep the members safe. they don't delete things for fun. so as i said, post in LtM.
     
  3. HaveNot

    HaveNot Active Member

    Thanks sparkle for the information. I already had a talk with the moderator who deleted my previous thread and the problem has been resolved. Thank you.
     
  4. TaraJo

    TaraJo Banned Member

    A couple of points here:

    First off, guys, trust me: women want so much more than a big penis on their guy. I would much rather have a guy who can be sweet and sensitive over a guy who has a 13 inch cock. Even when it does come to sex, for women, sex is about SO much more than just genital stimulation; it's kinda like our entire body is like a sexual organ and just touching us, gently, in other places can mean so much more to us.

    Or, that goes for me at least. To each their own.... or, as we say on another forum I'm a member of, YMMV.

    Second, there are far worse things to have than small genitals. Not to discredit your pain, but there are worse problems to be had. Like mine.
     
  5. IDKwhatIwant

    IDKwhatIwant Well-Known Member

    5 inches is small ?

    :huh:

    thats average... i thought you had a skin issue and were maybe 2 or 3 inches... youre just slightly below average and disappointed. i dont see why youre suicidal over this.
     
  6. HaveNot

    HaveNot Active Member

    Hey, thanks for the replies. I know Tarajo that my problem isn't one of the biggest and it definitely isn't one of the smallest (pun intended) but it is a problem for me personally and i feel it hurts my self image. Maybe it just me not being satisfied enough with my self. Having a small penis has definitely ruin my confidence and has made me deeply depress and occasionaly suicidal. I did join a small penis forum and it help immensely with dealing with my problem and I also learned that things could have been much worse because there are people out there with what doctors term a micro-penis so I guess I shouldn't take my size for granted. IDKwhatIwant, I know my size is considered average at best but just having one more inch would greatly improve my confidence and I would feel like more of a man. I don't know about you but when it comes to the ladies I also suspect that most are size queens wanting 7"+ and anything below that just wouldn't fulfill them. Hopefully I have some luck with p.e. and my dreams of having that extra inch would greatly reduce the risk of me taking my own life, because at the end of the day it just not worth it. Too many love ones will be devastated and many unanswered questions would be stuck in their heads.
     
  7. Datura

    Datura Well-Known Member

    You obviously haven't spoken to too many "ladies." Most vaginas aren't 7 inches long, so having a penis that large or larger would be pointless not to mention painful.

    If you had a micro-penis then I could understand your despair. Considering yourself less of a man because of your size doesn't entirely make sense. There is more to being a man than penis size. Usually it has to do with depth of character, and respect for others. Spending all of this brain power lamenting over your penis is ruining your character, no doubt. Maybe you should work on aspects of your personality and coming to accept that which you cannot change.
     
  8. lifeislife

    lifeislife Member

    Same problem have females. But theirs is about breast. Some will do everything to make them larger. Lots of them actually look worse after operation. But they will not listen to reason, same as you will not listen.

    Dont look on different parts of your body, look on your body as whole.
    By the way, almost all males go throught their lives with wish they had at least little bigger penis. Kinda sad. Same as females go throught their lives wishing they had little bigger or smaller breast.

    I wonder how much of this problems are related to Porno.:blink:
     
  9. TaraJo

    TaraJo Banned Member

    Okay, so I guess I kinda understand how this can hurt your body image. Yeah; I deal with something similiar. I'm a pre-op transsexual and, yeah, I know how to hide everything, but, still, when I'm in the bathroom and I look in the mirror, yeah..... it really does make me feel like I'm less of a woman.

    However, the other side of that (for you, at least) is that I know several men (transsexual men) who are very sexy and extremely manly.... and they don't even HAVE a penis in the first place! Talk to one of them and, yeah, their lack of a penis doesn't mean they aren't men.

    Okay, yeah, admittedly, a girl would rather her boyfriend have a large penis to a small one but, truthfully, there are so many other factors that are far more important. Things like confidence, intelligence, compassion, charisma..... these are all incredibly important.

    Even when it comes to sex, it's different for women as it is for men. Sex is less genital-based for women. It's like a full-body experience. Heck, in my case, sex is entirely about the rest of my body; I don't want my genitals touched at all (and for those of you who want to ask the obvious question, yes, you probably know exactly why I want that part of my body ignored). However, I get alot of pleasure, sexually, from touching the rest of my body; gentle kisses and touches all over..... hmmm.....

    If it's too much of an issue, you could always look into a more extreme solution. There is penis-implant surgery which would help make it bigger. However, from what I've heard, the potential cost is worse than the potential pay-off.

    However, 5 inches is alot closer to average than you'd think. Yeah, guys in porn are bigger, but that's not a realistic expectation for a guy to have. They are hired specifically because they have a big penis and many of them get implants anyway. Real life, most guys are smaller than that. Go to a gym or something and you'll see guys around you with smaller penis than what you would have thought.

    Just my two cents. Good luck, hun. *hugs*
     
  10. Reki

    Reki Well-Known Member

    I wouldn't worry about it that much. Once you do have sex you'll realize your penis size isn't that big of a deal and your confidence will go up.
     
  11. Aerial

    Aerial Well-Known Member

    I concur. The size the OP listed is in the average range. It's pretty normal.

    It's horrible that so many men are led to believe that average is what many see in porno flicks. It's women too. I was shocked to find out that a few women I know thought that 8 inches was the average penis size for North American men. That's so crazy to me.

    I think if members have sexual issues they need to discuss, they should be allowed to discuss them openly. After all, our sex lives play a role in our makeup and well-being too. It's true that if there's a place to discuss really personal stuff, why not here? It's part of us.
     
  12. HaveNot

    HaveNot Active Member

    Thanks everyone for the encouraging comments and support over my issue at hand. I agree highly with Aerial, if you have a problem with something that is making you think these suicidal thoughts and ideas, discussing it is the best way to deal with it and come to a sensible solution!
     
  13. 1victor

    1victor Well-Known Member

    You should watch some Chinese porn.
    You'd be a giant there.
    Anyway, unless you are ridiculously small it's all about technique and attitude.
    And you are, my friend, within acceptable limits.
    So, get yourself a nice Asian girl and be happy.

    :IrishDoll:
     
  14. SadDude87

    SadDude87 Well-Known Member

    My honest opinion: You either have grandiose fantasies of people being in awe of you, or haven't had sex.

    When I was a virgin, I loved the idea of having a massive penis. The idea that women would awe in awe of it, talk about it, bla bla bla.

    The truth is, nobody is looking at you as much as you're looking at yourself. During sex, most people are just trying to cum. They're genuinely not judging you. They genuinely don't care. I've had sessions where I haven't got hard, haven't been able to cum, have had a shrunk dick from anxiety etc. You know what? Noone really cares in the real world. Sex/penis size/body issues in general are ridiculous. Trust me, nobody really cares or is judging in real life, irrespective of what the internet says, they're just trying to enjoy their body with another person and thats the end of it
     
  15. yursomedicated

    yursomedicated Chat & Forum Buddy

    i'm a girl and i'll just say that penis size really has no meaning to me. i really care more about the experience then the pleasure part. to me, it's more the love then the actually sex.

    i think most girls would agree they care more about the loving part then the sex. and honestly it's just like the saying, it's not the size it's how you use it.

    you really can't help body images. it's how you're born and it's not like you asked for a 'small tool'
     
  16. DrivEthermissIon

    DrivEthermissIon Banned Member

    Spanner in the works - understanding sexual pleasure

    Things like electrostim and sexual electrical stimulators are far more wonderful for a woman than that tool big or small, honestly if the woman doesn't agree that size doesn't matter and mutual o***** is more important, dump her, I'm sure you'll have no problem with ladies if you are open with a subject like this. Men and women are built differently. For the man it's 'I want to hit quickly and hard and I have to resist that urge unless the woman is...' well...for the woman it's having their *l** stimulated which is where the real pleasure lies, being hit is less pleasure and can often be uncomfortable in varying degrees. Think about the physics of it my friend, the physics. Electrical stimulation can do things to a woman that men can only dream of.

    If you really want to stand out, get a really good sexual electrical stimulator, you'll be the guy of any girl's dreams (as long as she likes you, and maybe even if she doesn't ;) ).

    Beware the good ones are a bit pricey. To get started Google Estim or E-stim , or look at sex shops in your area. Good luck my friend. You're a legend. Keep sailing. :kris: Be a bit light-hearted buddy. Hope this post helps someone. Hopefully a woman with experience in the bedroom can back me up, as I have none, but I'm pretty smart and have done some reading and watched documentaries and heard what women had to say.
     
  17. DrivEthermissIon

    DrivEthermissIon Banned Member

    I will of course reiterate what most are saying here - Look for sensitivity and compassion in your partner, or your relationship will be one-dimensional and finite/temporary, as well as destructive. There's is nothing more important.
     
  18. blueburn

    blueburn Member

    It's the porn movies which make you feel small. The dudes in the films are just freaks of nature basically and will most probably live a sad life without a girlfriend. Okay granted I don't have one.
     
  19. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    Did you know that most women don't get an orgasm from penetration but more from stimulation? Meaning using your fingers, tongue and sex toys...we do get some orgasm with penetration but it's not always the case and not everytime...it has nothing to do with penis size that's just how we are built...

    I guess what I'm wondering is what would you expect to do with a bigger penis? Why would you want one?
     
  20. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

    Tongue... Yuck! >.<

    Anyway 5 isn't that small.

    Maybe talk to your doctor about enhancement possibilities if you're that uncomfortable? Surgery is a no-no, however.