Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by VioletGirl, Oct 14, 2010.

  1. VioletGirl

    VioletGirl Member

    Do you ever feel like you're losing old friends without making new ones?

    I always thought high school friendships would last. But it's so difficult.

    I'm losing friends.
    I don't want to socialise.
    I can't be bothered to even be sad about it.

    So who's there to blame? :(
  2. Ouroboros

    Ouroboros Chat Buddy

    when I was at my lowest I would push people away, and I still find it hard to socialise.

    There is no one to blame, I think it is part of being depressed or whatever, for me it was that I didn't want people to see me and I was afraid, I still am but meds etc help me force myself to do more. I donno what its like for you?

    As for highschool friends, I know some people keep in touch and others don't, I rarely talk to anyone from my highschool, uni friends I do though, it depends on the friends I guess, how close you are/were and as you grow up you develop different interests etc etc. But I would say that because you don't want to socialise and you aren't unhappy abt losing the friends yet you are lonely, this appears to me like part of depression. Are you being treated in any way?


  3. KittyGirl

    KittyGirl Well-Known Member

    I think that losing old friends is a part of growing up and it's hard to make friends when you're older.
    Usually you can make friends at your workplace or in a class or club- but if you aren't willing to put effort into trying to find new people and make new friends... then you won't make any new friends.

    Depression makes it hard to actually want people in your life, I think.
    Even though you're lonely and want attention- you don't usually outwardly express these needs or seek them out.
    No one is to blame.
  4. VioletGirl

    VioletGirl Member

    Aww thanks for the support guys :) *Hugs*

    I made a small step forward today. I called one of my good friends. We had a good chat. I then went to her house and we watched a movie together. I tried re-connecting with another old friend too.

    Never hurts to try huh? It's worked well so far. A baby step, but still a step forward :)
  5. alwayshalfway

    alwayshalfway Member

    yea I remember back in middle school I had a friend who was the best of the best. She was my most important person ever. She still is, but we've grown apart over time...nostalgia kills :)
  6. Confusticated

    Confusticated Well-Known Member

    I didn't really have many friends to begin with in school, but most of the ones I did have, I lost. Now I still have.. 4, 5 if you count the one that p***ed off to Australia that I still talk to, and I've been out of school for over a year now. Working and everything. So although you're bound to lose friends, if you make the effort and they do too, you'll still keep the ones that matter.