Lonely and bored

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by cvb2377, Aug 16, 2016.

  1. cvb2377

    cvb2377 Well-Known Member

    Ok so I'm 22 and I can't work because of my mental problems, which is fine but I noticed how boring and lonely I get just sitting at home. I don't drive and I'm working on getting a license but even if I did drive there's nowhere fun to really go. I've been really sad about the loneliness and it's not helping my depression at all. I guess I want to know what other people do to pass the time when they are in my situation and don't have work or school to keep them busy. I just feel like crying and I'm not sure if I should be hospitalized again or not . I wish there was some magic pill that gets rid of this bored lonely feeling. I'm trying to keep it together because my mothers birthday is Thursday but damn it's eating away at me inside. I even try to ask if I can ride with my sisters or cousin while they run errands just to get out of the house. I feel like other people's lives are so much more glamorous and exciting then mine. Maybe if I had friends I wouldn't be so lonely. Please someone reply
  2. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Hi there, sorry you are feeling so crappy. The internet, netflix, listening to music, going for short walks, seeing a counsellor,having long baths, just getting outside cure my boredom pretty fast, its good to have someone you can talk to. Can you talk to your sister or cousin about how you are truly feeling? when i was 22 ended up in a coma due to a suicide attempt trust me when I say it is not worth it (hugs) please feel better soon, we do care :)
  3. cvb2377

    cvb2377 Well-Known Member

    I try talking to my mother sometimes and it helps but I'm still sad. It's weird because I have social anxiety and I usually feel fine alone but for some reason it's different now . My mom is taking me to the grocery store tomorrow so we will see how I feel then. But you don't work? Do you feel lonely or like you don't have meaning in your life?
  4. moxman

    moxman Rosie a silly girl, pretending to be serious Forum Pro

    Helloo CVB, I am Mox,

    Welcome to SF and thank you for sharing part of your story with us. The more you share, the more we can help you. That is how SF "works" we all help each other. Don't be shy. You are among friends now. Just remember here at SF , EVERYONE is facing his/her own demons. I invite you to read my personal story below in green and see that you are not the only one suffering, you are not the only one in pain. Here you are safe, no one will insult you or ridicule you. That BS is not tolerated here at SF. If you found SF like I did; looking for ways to hurt myself, are you suicidal? If not fantastic. If you are I would like for you to promise me that if you ever feel like you might hurt yourself that you will go to the nearest ER and get the help you need. The help you deserve. There is no shame in getting help.

    I hate to hear that you are having such a rough time with things. I know the pain of loneliness all too well, if you ever find a pill for it let me know ok? A lot of people here are very lonely and that is not uncommon here, just realize that you are battling the same demons I am. Have you thought about playing one of the numerous online games, i.e. Warcraft? That way you will be doing something and you can chat with different characters so you are not so cut off from the world. Feel free to browse our forums and read other users stories and what they are going through. You are not alone in your battles. I also know the pain of depression and it can be devastating at times.

    If you feel like crying then please cry. I cry, it is a healthy emotion that helps us deal with stress. Our emotions exist for one reason, to keep us safe. So please do not ignore your body's "alarm system" Please my young friend don't hold it in. Let it out , you will feel better. We both holding it in will only make things worse. Maybe finding a positive outlet for your energies will help you feel better like keeping a journal, or painting something or writing poetry, or just going for a walk will help you feel better. What hobbies do you have? What in the world interest you?

    You sound like you have a support network with your family members and that is great. You have people you can lean on, your a lucky girl.

    Because you seem very aware of your illnesses , I hope you are seeing a professional to help deal with them.

    You are going to have your good days and your bad days. Don't be afraid to lean on us , or to reach to us. We are here for you. Don't be shy.
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  5. cymbele

    cymbele SF Supporter

    I can relate. Loneliness and boredom are the bane of my existence. My friends get tired of me calling just to hear people talk. The nice thing about SF is you can chat in the chat room. You get to know people here. But yes, there is no substitution for people in real life. When you get your license check out a site called meetup.com. It's comprised of smaller groups that "meetup" with other people and do things like get togethers, dances, hikes, games nights crafts etc. Many are of low or no cost and some people will actually transport others to the event. I know I have given others rides when they needed them. It's great for meeting new people and failing that, you get out of the house and awaken your life. Meetups have saved my life. They are worldwide but might not have many in your area. Check it out. Good luck. I'll admit the first time to meet with a bunch of strangers is unnerving until you realize that the others are happy to meet a newbie. And then you don't mind meeting new friends.
  6. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    What about volunteering or learning a new hobby. Are there any support groups in your area?
  7. cvb2377

    cvb2377 Well-Known Member

    Where would you find support groups?
  8. Rockclimbinggirl

    Rockclimbinggirl SF climber Staff Member Safety & Support

    Maybe mental health associations. Try asking doctors. Or google it.