Looking for a Ear that has no tounge!

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by wildflower, Jul 19, 2008.

  1. wildflower

    wildflower Member

    Everyone around me knows my sexual orintation, but the mental battles I
    encounter I am not even able to share with my psyc. must less any one
    else. Looking for a Ear that has no tounge.
  2. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    Welcome to the forum.. So, hun... Tell me what's going on? I'm sorry that you are struggling enough to join the forum. Take care and stay safe. :hug:
  3. isomyriad

    isomyriad Member

    But happy that, given that you are, you've found your way here...In my entire 15 minutes of membership, I've been greatly encouraged...So yes...

    Tell us what's wrong so that we might listen, or send a message

  4. wildflower

    wildflower Member

    I woke up one morning and cleaned up my body, mind and soul. Wanting
    to understand who, what & where I was going in Life. I have been clean
    and sober for six months now. With no help from a self-support group. I
    was just sick of being drunk & stoned for 40 plus years. I begin to ask
    questions about GOD and spiritural things. Then I was told (by the local church) that I could not serve GOD and be gay. Talking about my world being upside down. Then my man packed his bags and left instead of
    supporting me. He did tell me that the church was right and he walked
    out of my life. With my fourth attempt to die, I was found (i do not know
    how)! I was recovering and I found this site. So here I am. Here, when
    you talk to someone they wag their tounge and tell all. So, here I am
    naked, alone, and in the dark.
  5. isomyriad

    isomyriad Member

    I am no Christian, but it is my understanding that many churches are now becoming enlightened, and even starting to admit gay clergy? Was not Man created in His image? If you seek solace in the church, don't give up on it, just find another :) What human could come between you and god?

    It's unbearable, that the stresses that cause us greatest need of another, are often ones that can push them away...I'm so sorry to hear that he left.

    I have to say though, sobriety for half a year, after so long is a brilliant feat....Congratulations
  6. amicrazy

    amicrazy Well-Known Member

    i am not Catholic or Christian, but i am a somewhat religious person. in my opinion, if you believe in God, then you should believe that God accepts you for who you are. if your local church does not accept you and holds different beliefs than your own, than perhaps you should find a church that suits you better, maybe a different sect of Christianity. no one should be turned away when they're looking for help, especially from a religious establishment.

    I do not know if i believe in God, but if God exists, then i believe God accepts everyone. no man has the right to say who is worthy in God's eyes.

    if God does not exist, then still, no man has the right to say they are more worthy than any other man.

    I'm sorry about your boyfriend. do you know his religious beliefs? maybe he has struggled with the church not accepting gays, and was just afraid that you were choosing the church over him, or reminding him that he "cannot serve God." i would consider calling him once to talk it over. if he wont give you the time of day, then move on. there are plenty of other guys out there, some who will share the same beliefs and values as your own. but this might have just been a nervous reaction your partner had, so maybe it is worth trying to work it out.

    :hug: stay strong, and stay true to yourself. :hug:
  7. Melmoth the Wanderer

    Melmoth the Wanderer Well-Known Member

    Hey there, and welcome to the forum! I'm afraid I have a tongue, but I like to believe I have an ear as well, so maybe it'll work out anyway. :smile:

    I noticed you live in Alabama. I live in North Carolina myself, and I know how close-minded people can be here in the "Bible-belt". I'm a lesbian--or a bisexual with a stronger interest in women; not quite sure--and I'm still in the closet. I don't know what it's like in AL, but NC has a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for gay people (I honestly think the military got that from here). In other words, as long as you don't mention homosexuality, you can be as "gay" as you like. My hometown actually has a rather large gay community that isn't hassled as long as it doesn't bring attention to itself. The organist in my childhood church was more or less openly gay, but no one really talked about it. Is AL like this as well, or is it more dangerous?

    I'm no longer religious, but I was for a very long time, and I still like to study the Bible and its history. I've studied the claims that the Bible condemns homosexuality, and most of these are quite silly if you look at the actual quotes in context. Here's a website that pretty much sums up what I've read elsewhere:


    I'm also currently reading a book called Christianity, Social Tolerance, and Homosexuality by John Boswell, which goes into depth about the history of gay acceptance/persecution. Quite an interesting read.

    I'm sorry your partner left you. It sounds like he was struggling with his own identity and orientation. Don't blame yourself or try to change who you are. The church has been mistaken often throughout history, and their current attitude towards homosexuality is just another example of ignorant intolerance.

    Sorry to wag my tongue; it's a bad habit of mine. :smile: