Anyone here ever been in a relationship with a person who had BPD? Experienced BPD by proxy?? I did. Now I cannot imagine being in a normal relationship with a normal woman.. I'm sorry if this forum is not the right place to discuss this. She committed suicide, that's why I'm on here. I didn't know she was BP until she done it. She hid it from me. Her family told me afterwards. knew very little about BPD and how it affects people. When I started researching and learning about it it became instantly clear she was a classic case study. Now I'm wondering if it was real love or if I was caught up in the BP by proxy syndrome. If it wasn't love I think I would rather be caught up in a lifetime BPD by proxy relationship. We were together nine months and engaged to be married. It wasn't just a fling. I have never been so happy, the sex was only part of it. She had the most vibrant personality and she was the most intelligent woman I've ever known. A natural beauty inside and out. Anytime was quality time with her. She just hit what was described as a manic low. I never knew suicide was a possibility and I was with her every day. I miss her so much. Its been two months now and she is still all I think about. I'm very thankful for the time we had though.