Made some decisions..

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Sa Palomera, Jun 30, 2008.

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  1. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    Okay I didn't know where to put this exactly. I would put it in Positive and Motivational Messages, but I'm not too sure if it's that positive yet. :dunno:
    Moderators feel free to move it to wherever you think it fits best.

    Okay so..
    I've been thinking about this for a while now, but haven't spoken about it a lot. Until this weekend. I was at the verge of a breakdown over the entire University thing on Friday. So that brought me to the point of talking about it with some house mates. Just get their opinions and views and taking all of them in account and thinking about my own thoughts (thereby blocking out whether it'd disappoint my family or not - after all it's my life and not anybody elses), I came to a decision.

    Some may know, I have been in therapy for a year, 4 days a week. And I was planning on going back to university in September, to do the degree programme for English Language and Culture.
    Well, I'm not going to.

    Let me explain my reasons why I am not going to go back to university this year..
    • I have been slacking a lot of paper work, including the forms I need to have sent in before tomorrow to get a studygrant. So I'm too late to get the study grant in time. (I have been slacking partly because I'm anxious about it, and partly because I've been having doubts for a while now)
    • This is a nice way to get back into life outside of therapy, as there's less pressure than at university (in my experience at least), plus if turns out I'm not ready and I'd have to go back to therapy, I wouldn't have wasted a lot of money on university, this way. Money which I don't have.
    • This way I can make money to get out of debts and even start saving up so that next summer I can (hopefully) travel throughout the UK for a month.

    So yeah...
    And in half an hour I have a job interview for a summer job, which I'll hopefully get. I have a decent chance of getting it, in all honesty so that'd be great. And if not then I'll start looking for a job next week. :smile:

    Now the only thing creeping in the back of my head:
    * have I made the right decision?
    * how on earth am I going to inform my family about this. They are all proud that I'm going back to university in September :unsure: :sad:
  2. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    I think you've made the decision you feel is necessary to improve your life. I don't think that anyone can tell you what is right and what isn't. I think getting a job and getting out in the world is good. So what if you don't go back to school yet?! You still can. Explain to your family that you need to get a job and pay your way in things first and you will eventually go back. Even if you don't Est, it's your life, not theirs. Who are they to say what's wrong or right?!

    Good luck hun
  3. ~CazzaAngel~

    ~CazzaAngel~ Staff Alumni

    Est... :hug:

    You should be proud, Hun.. It usually isn't easy to make a choice for yourself without looking back and fearing that family or friends will not approve, but it's your life, not theirs.. I'm glad you are making a decision to improve yourself and your life. Be proud of yourself, Est. :hug:
  4. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    theres alot to be proud of hun, but mostly you have made a decision for yourself coz thats what YOU wanted.

    wtg hun.

    i hope you get the job, fingers crossed
  5. blue shoes

    blue shoes Well-Known Member

    "To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves--there lies the great, singular power of self-respect." - Joan Didion

    Ish :hug: :hug: :hug:

    You decided for yourself, you did what you thought is the best for you, and that is a brave thing to do, and I admire you for that.

    Even if you might feel that you made a mistake later, going to uni is not something that needs to be done at a certain point, you can start doing it later, whenever you feel ready.

    I personally think you made the right decision, you seemed awfully low and if going back to uni had to do with that, I think means that you weren't ready and things would have gotten bad.

    Fingers crossed for the job! :smile:

    You know where I am if you need me! :hug:
  6. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    Thanks for the replies :smile:
    I'm getting more and more convinced that this indeed is the right path to choose :smile:

    And I got the job, I can stay all summer, and there's a possibility I can stay after summer as well (if I do my job properly of course, that is) :smile:
  7. danni

    danni Chat Buddy

    yaaaaaaaay ish :hug: :hug:

    I soo happy you got the job, and i think you made a great decision. :hug:
  8. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest


    wtg Ish, so very pleased for you
  9. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    Explain to your family that you are taking a break and trying to make sure you are ready to add the stress of university and things before you go back. You are not abandoning your goals, just putting things on hold. They should understand. Use this year to heal and make many more strides forward. congrats on getting the job. :hug:
  10. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    Congrats Ester. :hug:
    Take the job one day at a time, do your best and I'm sure it'll all be well. I'm happy for you!
  11. Hey that's great!! Congrats! :D
  12. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    Thanks all :hug:
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