So I am married to a woman that has nearly zero desire for sex and the lack of affection controls my depression. I wish I could take some medicine that would make me not care anymore. the background: before we were married I told her that I needed to call it off because the quality and quantity in the bedroom was inadaquate. She gave me a sob story (literally sobbing) that it caused her great anxiety when we had sex because her family had told her they would disown her if she ever got knocked up. She assured me that things would change once we were married. Well they didn't. When we finally talked about it she admitted she had lied because she did not think I would marry her. Now she allows me to have sex maybe once a month and its pathetic. She rolls over onto her stomach and lays there silently like some type of rape victim. Half the time I end up pretending to cum. It leaves me feeling ashamed, repulsive and inadaquate. I have offered to go to a therapist and do all of the talking but she has refused. MINDED do not know if her issue is medical (hormones) or mental or sexual orentation. But I suspect medical as she does not even masturbate. I have 2 young kids and have decided this pain is less then the pain I would get from getting a divorce and only seeing my sweethearts 2 weekends a month. But, I'm not sure I can survive 10 years until they are grown up.