Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Smashed__, Dec 8, 2007.

  1. Smashed__

    Smashed__ Well-Known Member

    I'm Seventeen and have never masturbated(still a virgin too), and from what I read and hear its crazy. I have been called a liar and amost feel like I missed a step in growing up. lol I haven't been in a relationship either, and while I do think about sex every few minutes(its bad), I haven't tryed anything. :unsure:

    Is it that rare for someone to have avoided masturbation?
  2. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    its a little weird that you haven't even tried it, just like on accident or out of curiosity, or while showering or something that it didn't even happen, sort of- I mean, we touch ourselves everywhere at some point, maybe you're avoiding it for a reason.
    i didn't have any sexual feelings really until i was 18 but i remember being younger and accidentally touching myself and just kind of going with it because it felt nice....i mean masturbation isn't something to make yourself do, nor is is something to actively doesn't make you any purer if you're not doing it, but it doesn't make you strange either unless you have bad feelings about masturbation being wrong
  3. Smashed__

    Smashed__ Well-Known Member

    I touch myself to wash, but nothing fun about that. I have had sexual feelings, and thoughts for a very long time..before I was a teenager even.

    I can't see any joy or pleasure coming from touching myself but I'm curious, for sure. I dunno.. I see nothing wrong with it, I just don't understand. :tongue:
  4. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    I don't think it's weird at all. If you don't have the urge then why would you do it?
  5. Smashed__

    Smashed__ Well-Known Member

    but what do you mean by urge?
    the urge to touch/feel myself, or sexual urges?
  6. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    I just mean the urge to touch yourself specifically, not sexual urges. I didn't masturbate at that age either.
  7. Beattles

    Beattles Well-Known Member

    its been so long since i last had a hand party that when i tried to do it a few days ago., i couldnt. its like i forgot or some shit
  8. Fishman

    Fishman Guest

    People reach puberty and go into different stages at different ages some people don't even reach puberty until 21 or older althought it gets rarer the higher up in numbers you go...I know it sounds weird in this society which is so focused on sex but its true. Don't rush yourself into anything your not ready for.
  9. Melmoth the Wanderer

    Melmoth the Wanderer Well-Known Member

    Don't feel like you have to masturbate just because others do. 5-6% of the population doesn't masturbate, and that's actually a lot of people.

    Although I usually masturbate at least once a week, I don't feel like masturbating at all when I'm depressed or on certain medications.

    Do you get aroused by certain sexual thoughts and/or images? Many people fantasize about what turns them on and use that to get off. Others watch porn. I enjoy reading erotica. If you're curious about what the big deal is, you could explore these (though as you know, be wary of viruses and spyware if using the internet :smile:).

    Part of masturbation is learning about what feels good to you, not to anyone else. Many people enjoy genital stimulation, but many enjoy other regions as well (for example, the chest and nipples, the stomach, the neck, the ears, and even the feet can all be potential erogenous zones).

    In the end, if you find that you just don't enjoy touching yourself, don't feel like you're some kind of freak. Everyone has different sexual needs, and millions of people feel the same way you do about this.
  10. Smashed__

    Smashed__ Well-Known Member

    Thank you, this was very helpful and comforting.

    I am aroused pretty easily, and I am one of those people who fantasize. I The first time I watched porn was online at like age 11? maybe. I don't do it anymore because I'd hate for it to pop up on the computer for my family . :laugh:

    I guess in time I will learn more about myself.
  11. A_pixie

    A_pixie Well-Known Member

    It gets addictive though! I was so depressed at work I had to keep going to do that in the toilets, I know that's absolutely gross but that and the picture of Pete Wentz on my desk was the only thing keeping me from jumping out of a window!
  12. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    ^ I was in a toilet stall yesterday or was it the day before, and somehow I found myself being turned on by the music in there :laugh:

    According to my girlfriend I have special abilities when it comes to these things.
  13. LetItGo

    LetItGo Staff Alumni

    Im wondering if it can ruin your sex life a bit, I mean, you know in terms of sensitivity? :unsure:
  14. ggg456

    ggg456 Guest

    Depends if you're touching yourself and it's purely physical?

    And when I meant music - they play music in shopping centre toilets..not anything else.
    Last edited: Feb 19, 2008
  15. Hurted

    Hurted Well-Known Member

    Im doing it more times daily when im severe depressed:laugh:
  16. Don't worry about it. It's normal if you do and normal if you don't. :)
  17. thedudeabides

    thedudeabides Active Member

    <mod edit: bunny - inappropriate> if you have nothing against it then theres no harm in trying it, and trying it will answer your question of "whats the big deal" it just feels good and relieves the sexual frustration.
    Last edited by a moderator: Mar 30, 2008
  18. jessikah2k8

    jessikah2k8 Well-Known Member

    I can openly admit I masturbate on a regular basis.. and sometimes with my boyfriend. To be honest.. and I can admit this.. getting masturbated by your boyfriend is a lot more sexually relieving and I enjoy it more than actually having sex.
  19. nagisa

    nagisa Staff Alumni

    There is nothing wrong with it.
  20. Squire

    Squire Active Member

    i'm new here so don't take offence as I don't know, but are you male or female?
    it's extremely common with teenage males but a surprisingly high amount of females don't masturbate, and i have a few friends that don't.
    so it's not as uncommon as you think