you know as long as i been living, i have wondered why ministers are not like they are supposed to be or act.. i have also noticed that they seem to be all caring and loving when they are around members of the church they attend but not when away from others.. let me tell you.. the minister that we have been to church and attended, well i called him the other day to let him know about dad and that dad has his surgery on his neck this coming wednesday and dad being 75 may not make it. i told arlon or rather asked him why don't he come and see dad and he simply says well bring him over to church sunday and we can say a special prayer, so i tell him i can't do that because i myself am sick, i have had a high fever for a while now, and i have a case of shingles ( adult chivkenpox ) anyhow he says well yes you can come.. i mean what in the world is wrong with him? i mean if he were sick would he diliberatly go and have the chance of infecting others? i mean would he? i can never do that.. i do not want to cause anyone to get sick.. anyhow, he has not come out to see dad and so help me God, if dad passes away, i will make dang sure that he will not come to the funeral..i hate to be such a b.. on this but if he has no respect for dad while he is living and not even care enough to even stop by for 5 minutes and at least say a prayer for dad then by george he will not come to the funeral.. i will personally tell the funeral people to not let him in.. if he can't take the time to see dad while he is alive then he will not be able to pay his respects to him while he is dead.. plain and simple.. i just don't get ministers these days.. if one can't come to their church or even pay money into the church they simply have no bit of love for ya, and that is wrong.. dad may very well pass, and what is even more dis hearting is that may 5, was the exacvt same day my mom passed away in 1988, and she was buried on may 9, 1988, mothers day.. if that happens i will be so hurt by that, and so much in anm ill mood and anyone who claims to care for my dad and not show up until he is dead will really piss me off and there is no telling what i would do.. you know love is supposed to be all the time and caring is supposed to be that way, not just a thing that happens when one passesc away..