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Mirrors and photos

Discussion in 'Appearance and Body Image' started by Steven2311, Feb 4, 2018.

  1. Steven2311

    Steven2311 Member

    I don't even remember the last time I saw myself in the mirror or in a picture. I just can't look to myself, I feel bad and ashamed to see such a miserable creature. It's really hard to me when I need to shave or cut my own hair but I manage to do it even without looking at the mirror. I do take pictures but I can't look at it, a blur my vision, I look at another direction or say something else to avoid looking at me, I just can't. I wanted to look to myself again and feel proud of what I see, but I just hate myself. I feel miserable, I can't even cry of saddiness and don't know why. I want to be normal.
  2. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    That's awful Steven. I don't know what to say, but I wish you didn't have to suffer like this
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  3. Lonelygirl87

    Lonelygirl87 New Member

    Please don’t feel like that. We’re all beautiful in our own way. I struggle with my looks also.
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  4. Walker

    Walker Everything Zen Staff Member Safety & Support SF Social Media SF Supporter

    I really avoid mirrors and photos as well. I leave the bathroom mirror open when I brush my teeth so I don't have to look at this wretched thing staring back into it. And I just avoid having photos taken. Screw that.
    Sorry you feel bad, bro. I feel for ya.
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  5. MarkahMalady

    MarkahMalady Well-Known Member

    Same. My husband was trying to show me pictures from our wedding, I begged him not to, it just ruins my day. If I ever get a good shot it takes about a million tries and leaves me drained and depressed.
    Definitely avoid looking at mirrors in public, that'll ruin a good time for sure.
  6. DrownedFishOnFire

    DrownedFishOnFire Seeing is Believing Forum Pro SF Supporter

    Am not photogenic even drivers license shows me clenching my jaw in a pained grimace every single time I have to renew it.

    What I like about some cultures they do not believe in taking pictures or having pictures around of the person. That's my excuse I'm in the wrong culture.
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  7. middlerose

    middlerose Active Member

    Photos and mirrors are a nightmate...I see what the world sees...a fat unattractive old lady.. it' So hard in this world where a certain appearance is almost mandatory. Such a shallow world indeed..the pressure to look a certain way causes me much anxety And depression...
  8. theedda

    theedda Well-Known Member

    I can deal with the mirror okay, but man, I still avoid pictures like the plague. It's one of the things that really gets to me, since I'm extremely unphotogenic. I spend a long time building up my confidence, and accepting how I look, but then boom, some family member or friend INSISTS on taking a picture, and all that comes crumbling down. Even when people do take pictures of me, I go out of my way to avoid looking at them. Every picture I've used on Facebook or Tinder has been a selfie, and even those take me waaaay too long to get something I'm even remotely happy with. And I can't smile in pictures, for the life of me. Even if I take something that makes me look more or less human, I manage to ruin it by looking miserable.

    I'm sorry you're going through this. I really hope you find some confidence in yourself, though I know that's easier said than done
  9. Winter Blues

    Winter Blues SF Supporter

    I’m with you Middlerose, except thin, old and ugly. I hate photos being taken of me and mirrors I avoid as best I can. If people look at me outside I just want to curl up and cry convinced they are horrified and I should get out of their way. It’s so sad that a lot of the world sets store on looks and body image.