awesome video....now I need to figure out how to do this!
I think it all begins in just recognising your thought response to a situation.
So lets say tomorrow morning you wake up and somebody says something that triggers you.
I don't know but let's just make up something for arguments sake.
'Morning (
your name here), I see you've got out of the wrong side of the bed again and am just as miserable as always'
Now this will have a reaction, a reaction that has been the same for many years as :
A: Somebody just hurt you
B: Your response has always been the same because it's familiar territory
C: People should know that they are the reason you are miserable and shouldn't say such things to provoke it
D: You wouldn't be so miserable if they would just vanish
E: I didn't feel miserable before I got up but I do now
Yet all of the above is a waste of energy.
Now some hardball people in this life would fight fire with fire as a safeguard, and come back instantly with, 'well I wasn't miserable until I set eyes on your ugly face' lol.
And 9 times out of 10 this will either shut the other person up or a fight breaks out.
Still a waste of energy but I doubt the next morning it would ever happen again.
Yet still a waste of energy though probably has a more positive outcome going that route.
Personally though and if you break down the whole thing from the beginning then somebody has learnt how to tap into your senses and wind you up.
This is usually because they are the ones that are really miserable and want you to feel worse.
The absolute worst thing you could do in the above example is to just smile and say 'I'm not miserable, actually it's a joy to see you'
This would be fatal for the other person as they have not managed to make you feel worse, in fact they will feel even more miserable than they could of ever imagined because you are no-where near being miserable as they really are.
So to figure it out all you need to do is think about things a little bit differently than you always have before.
Not just go and sit in bed and stew on it, by all means go and lay in bed but analyse it. Analyse it from your side of the fence and not there's.
Learn the feelings you feel when someone or something taps into your senses. Analyse your response and learn that for the past 20 odd years they have never served you well at all.
Keep doing that day after day and after a week you will start to notice change, and everybody around you starts to change!
For the better!