Ok, I'm getting really mixed signals from my boyfriend, at least that's how I feel. I'm supposed to be moving in with him in less than a month but I'm having trouble being comfortable because he seems to keep changing his mind about everything and inconsistency doesn't seem to make for a reliable, trusting relationship. First, he says I can move in with him. A few weeks later I say, ok, I feel ready for this. Then he says no. AHHH.... Then he says yes a few days later. First, he says he'll charge $300-400, whatever I can afford. Then, when I say I'll move in, he changes it to $500. ??? ... Then, back to $400. First, he says I can have a dog there. A few weeks later, I mention that I've been looking at rescue dogs to bring home. He says, no, I can't have one. ?!?!? GGRRR! Why all the change? I don't know, maybe its just a case of him speaking without thinking and then being forgetful and speaking again, but to me it seems odd. That's a whole lot of mind changing. I don't know why he'd offer things to be a whole lot better at first and then change it all around, unless he was trying to bribe me into feeling good about him. What's even more frustrating is I feel like he has double standards. As I mentioned in an earlier post his last girlfriend lived with him for free. She also had a dog. ?????? He swears that he loves me more than anyone he's been with, he talks about marriage with me and says he never felt certain with someone to the point that he really wanted to seriously discuss it... but then why does it seem like he was favoring her? I just feel so uncomfortable, like maybe I shouldn't be living with him. I know full well I could rent a nicer room somewhere else for less, and maybe find a place that allows pets. And I wonder if I should even make the move when I'm feeling so insecure about him, and I know I'll still be keeping an eye out for a better place. At the same time, I know my vision is often clouded by paranoia and memories of an unhappy past. Is there a way I can see this in a better light? Maybe he's just speaking without thinking and I just need to let him know to take these conversations more seriously?