mothers who know you're being abused

Discussion in 'Rape and Abuse' started by morning rush, Apr 30, 2012.

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  1. morning rush

    morning rush Well-Known Member

    on the news there was this young woman who was abused by her step father and that the mother was aware of it but never protected her. And so she had her mother go to court and be judge guilty of aiding the abuse and she got 18 months of community service. Seeing that struck a cord in me...

    my dad abused me so much, my step mom always took my dad's side, my real mom couldn't help me...

    the worse thing is I still don't get why I was abused, and that my dad has no recollection of it, it never happened in his mind...fake memories of happy times happened in his mind...why is it that those people who do harm to others always get away with it?

    I'm poor, I can barely function in society, I'm alone and I suffer, does he suffer? no..he's at home doing what he likes and sleeps like a baby...I am so mad, so angry...

    I try so hard to survive and live, to overcome obstacles...but what's the point?
  2. deathangel101

    deathangel101 Well-Known Member

    my dad abused me too and it was horrible even now 6 years later i still hav the nightmares and flashbacks
  3. youRprecious!

    youRprecious! Antiquities Friend

    I'm so sorry to hear this, morning rush - it's totally unfair. Society is to blame because of its blindness - and its ineptness as to what to do for the abused. It's actually the society that is sick because of its inability to stop abuse like this happening in families. We have to take care of ourselves, and become our own best friend and choose to make the choice (however impossible it seems as first, and I know it's hard) to forgive our abusers as the cretins that they are/were - otherwise their abuse to us will use up the rest of what is rightfully ours, our mental energies.

    It's a long road out of the pit - and this is why SF is a wonderful place for getting some of the support we need to do the job. Strength and blessings to you m.r. :pinkrose:
  4. letty

    letty Banned Member

    Hi morning rush I was abused by my moms boyfriend and my mom. . she was there alot of the times. I never understood why she let him and what she was thinking. I hope you hang in there and continue to overcome obstacles.
  5. red ribbons

    red ribbons Well-Known Member

    My mom found me with my early sexual abuser and I was lucky she protected me from him after that, but her protection went into its' own form of abuse for years until her death. Society has a way of either turning their backs on you because they don't want to see/hear it or they have an over active interest in a sexual way of what's going on. I think all the porn around is not helping the situation. It gives people ideas. There seems to be very few people who truly can deal with the problem head on and help people like us.
  6. Samara

    Samara Account Closed

    I agree with the porn industry idea. But then I am torn on it. On one hand it is encouraging it, I believe; but on the other hand, is it really the porn that is the problem, or just my problem with it, that is the problem?

    As for the mothers... they are not "mothers" if they choose to protect themselves, before their own children---> this coming from a child who also, had a woman who chose herself over her children.
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