my brother

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by andyc68, Dec 19, 2007.

  1. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    today i found out my brother died yesterday.

    the coroner said that he died of a massive heart attack, he was found after police broke down the door at the bottom of the stairs in a pool of blood.
    my parents are devastated, as am i.
    but i have to be strong for them, this is the 2nd brother i have lost in as many years, my family must be cursed.

    if i am away for a while then this is why but i will be back.

    so much for merry xmas.
  2. RySp123

    RySp123 Guest

    Andy, death doesnt have a time or date, nor does it choose who must leave first or later and you know it as well as i do.

    I dislike this month for a reason but we cant blame anyone nor curse
    life or whatever is it that you believe in. your family isn't curse as
    his time was up to meet his creator.

    Be strong so to do what needs to be done, but dont forget to cuddle and care for your own grieving. Do not shut it as it will backfire later in time hun.

    Wishing you all the best and my thoughts are with you in this difficult time.

    :hug: stay safe

    Granny xx
  3. Melancholy

    Melancholy Well-Known Member

    I shall save the cliched words, which seem to be the only ones I know. But I feel for you, that's a terrible thing to have happened.

    Take care, stay strong,
    Lauren :hug:
  4. resistance

    resistance Staff Alumni

    I'm sorry to hear this, Andy. :( Sending loadsa hugs your way. :hug:
  5. Spearmint

    Spearmint Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Andy..:hug::hug:
  6. alice0705

    alice0705 Well-Known Member


    I have lost two brothers also. I will keep you in my thoughts.
  7. Esmeralda

    Esmeralda Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry. Words cannot make it any better or easier but you are in my prayers.
  8. GypsyGirl

    GypsyGirl Well-Known Member

    :hug: Andy... I am so sorry... :hug:
  9. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    thank you all
  10. Dying_Dreams

    Dying_Dreams Well-Known Member

    Im sorry to hear of your loss. *big hugs*
  11. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    well today i helped my dad move lots of steves stuff from his flat, what a mess. seems he let himself go for some time, he was depressed and had a heart condiction no one knew about.

    i live a long way away so we only met at dads house so i didnt know how bad things were, how someone can live it such mess i don't know.
    the place stank and was a shithole, really bad.

    was shocking but he hid it well.

    so all little bits dumped, just got the big stuff to do after xmas.
    funneral is on the 7th, not looking forward to that.

    only good news was that the coroner said he was dead b4 he hit the ground and he wasn't doing hard drugs, bit easier on the folks.

    thank you all for your best wishes and prayers.

    love you all

    andy xx
  12. Pentacle

    Pentacle Well-Known Member

    All my thoughts and prayers are with you. I have only said hi to you before, but loss unites us all.

  13. 12barblues

    12barblues Member

    i'm so sorry for your loss and what you and your family are forced to deal with right now. It's never a "good" time but, crap, Christmas?!
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours as you sort this all out. I have some empathy for what you are going through. You are not alone.
  14. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    well, monday brings closure to this, its the funneral.
  15. *dilligaf*

    *dilligaf* Staff Alumni

    sorry to hear about your loss.

    my thoughts are with you always but especially on monday