My Counsellor Told Me Today ...

that S____ did not have control over me, that he was not in a position of power over me, that i made my own choices.

:cry:

 

How could she say something like that? I'm sorry I don't even know you but I'm really angry right now. What she said is NOT true. You shouldn't believe it's your fault no matter what. :hug:

 

*grrr*

 

:hug:s both.

The weirdest thing is that she didn't sound malicious when she said it, except that the actual words did of course. But she looked like she thought she was actually being helpful.

How could she believe that was helpful?

Is she just completely incompetent?

*sigh* It makes me doubt myself even more than I did already :sad:

 

What a bitch. :dry: That comment has made me angry too. Have you thought about making a complaint? Does she normally help you? How about seeing another counsellor? It's not true what she said, not your fault hun. :hug:

 

I'm so sorry she said that because it was not only hurtful but wrong. :hug:

I think resistance is right about talking to another counselor.

Hope you find someone who will help you.

 

Definetly a complaint should be lodged This counsellor will be the death of someone some day What a totally fucking idiotic thing to say

 

what an idiot. Agree with Terry a complain should be logged, how can you be such an idiot telling someone in pain that it was her own fault.
Stay strong hun :hug:
Beret xxx

 

Thanks for all the support guys :grouphug:

I wasn't expecting everyone to react so violently. I guess this means I'm probably in the right, not her.

I don't know what to do. I have an exam next Monday and I told her I have an exam the Monday after (I actually have one on the Tuesday) so I don't have to see her for three weeks now. Also I got a 120 day prescription for my meds yesterday rather than a 30 day one, so I guess I'm not quite as tied to her. But I don't know what to actually do.

 

Yes, you are right. Since you don't have appointments with her for the next couple weeks, perhaps you could start checking on other counselors. Sometimes people want to talk to an unhelpful counselor a final time for closure. :hug:

 

I don't have any other options though I'm afraid. It's her or no-one. :sad:

 

Are you in a small town where there aren't other therapists/psychiatrists? If you don't want to explain that's fine. I know sometimes [a lot, actually]I feel like I am out of options and then something else shows up. PM me if you like.

 

I am in a very small and isolated place, yes, though I'd rather not say where. There is no rape crisis or anything where I am. I'm with CAMHS at the moment even though I am over 18 because my mum and her ex (my abuser :cry both work for adult services where I live. I am fucked :cry: :blub:

 

you're counselor is on crack and i would tell her to lay off of it because she is really coming up with some dumb ass shit as a result. nothing is your fault remember that and take care

 

That honestly made me laugh. I love you! :hug: x x x

 

you're so welcome. i am glad you could smile. that's a good thing.

take care

 

Don't know about the mental health systems outside my own area so I dunno what to say but :hug: