I have a relatively new friend who I bonded with really fast who is like a soul mate but who is potentially suicidal. I told his family and now his half sister says he is really mad at me because it stressed everyone out to have to hear the news, and he apparently wasn't suicidal in the first place. I was worried so I thought I ought to tell someone, and I think I did the right thing. But his half sister (who made me feel like a criminal, said she worked for the police department and told me to unfriend all his family members on facebook) made it sound like he is very angry with me and upset, so I am afraid to call him, even though he called yesterday when I was out and asked to talk to me. (I left a message on his phone late last night but he doesn't always see those). We usually talk more than three times a week, and lately almost every day. He couldn't wait to have me visit since I haven't seen him in a while. My friend was saying, over the course of five months I have known him, that there is nothing left for him in life and that he wants to reunite with God, that he sometimes wishes he were never born, and that without his mother and sister he would kill himself. His mother has been in hospital/rehab lately, and he has been depressed, but he has loved talking to me. He never calls people out of the blue, because of his depression, but he returns my calls, unlike his sister's (she gets mad about this). He says I am the only person outside his family he talks to. His other friends he has alienated himself from by ignoring them in his depression. He has said without mom and sister he would want to kill himslef, and so when his mother went to hospital I was very worried, especially after reading suicide warning signs and seeing how very similar they are to his own behavior (isolating himself, depression, irritability, hopelessness, bad sleeping and eating habits, talking about death and suicide vaguely, etc). I was nervous and I tried to contact him to talk to him about it but he wasn't home, so I got desperate and looked up his aunt and uncle, and also his sister, in the phone directory online. I found them adn called but they were not there either. I must have called 20 times. I was getting very worried. The next day while I was on teh computer at the library I found someone I knew on FaceBook who appeared to be a relative and asked if she knew him. She did, but not very well, and she and I got along really well and we talked about him and she told my friend's aunt and uncle (her aunt married his uncle) and she reported back to me that my frend is fine. While emailing her I had also emailied the aunt through Facebook. All was fine and well until later on when my dad picked me up and told me my freind called my house while I was out and his half sister also called, and that she was upset and said she worked for the police department and wanted me to stop friending his family members on Facebook, and saying I upset them all and traumatized his dying mother (who they had the ridiculous idea of telling, instead of pulling my firend aside adn discussing it with him). I just thought I was helping out a friend, not committing a crime. What right does she have to tell me who I can friend on Facebook? if they don't like it, they can unfriend me. I've never received a complaint from them. Also, she contradicted several things my friend said: 1. She said my friend isolates when he is depressed and that he needs to focus on family issues now. NOT true. My friend was reaching out more to me these past few weeks when mother has been sick, inviting me to come up adn such. (he has depressoin and maybe was reaching out for support) 2. She said she and my friend have a close relationship and that he called her first after this controversy occurred because she is the rational sibling, gave her my phone number. My friend told me about her before this whole debacle and he said he barely heard of her his whole life and now she is suddenly contacting him and he doesn't know why she suddenly wants to become close to him. He also said she told him she works in the government, so high up she has secrets she cannot tell. 3. She said my friend pushes non family people out of his life when there are family matters. I have never noticed this. In fact, he wanted me to come up and meet his mother and he said I am the first person he talks to after his mother and (full) sister. (who he seems much closer to than this half sister!) 4. She said my friend's mother is dying, but my freind told me a week ago that she is getting better and going to rehab, not hospital. 5. She said he likes to keep his family life private and doesn't want outsiders prying in. Opposite is true. He is a terrible gossip and motormouth and tells me everything and all the details. He cannot keep his mouth shut, which I think is his way of "reaching out" for help. This half sister seems like she is trying to push me away from my freind. Perhaps she is involved in crime, like my freind's late father (who was her father also and whom my friend almost never saw growing up), and wants to keep my freind from tattling to someone on teh "outside"? The other relative I emailed on facebook, the one whose aunt married his uncle, said that she did not have a relationship with my frend, but had talked to him a while and taht he was honest and intelligent and had the courage to be himself. she liked him a lot since he was not fake. She said his family is loving but argumentative and they dont listen adn they bury problems under the rug (and my freind had a LOT of problems growing up) and don't understand mental health issues. She thinks that maybe he is reaching out to me by telling me about these suicidal-like thoughts and that I am a someone he trusts to better understand him. MY PROBLEM: I am afraid to call my freind because I am afraid of what he will say adn I am also afraid he will reject me. I love him to pieces and I need him in my life. He also needs me, since I am the only person right now who can provide him some sanity and a good perspective on life. His mother was an alcoholic and is now on Xanax (he lives with her and takes care of her) and the rest of his family does not understand him. I love him and I am afraid he will now commit suicide someday because of this huge blowup with the family (which the weird half sister said was resolved...even though she still felt the need to call me...) and I am also afraid he does not want to be my friend anymore. Can someone help me?