Hey everyone so this is my first post and it’s not going to be about my problems So lately my GF of ~2years on and off has really started to open up to me about her family, not all at once, little by little I learn more each time we talk, what im learning is quite shocking and somewhat hard to deal with. My GF was adopted at birth in to a family of 4 other children 2 kids were from her father’s previous relationship and 2 were from the current one (I believe). Her father was/is abusive and is an alcoholic and would leave for days with no explanation (but was more then likely seeing other women). When she was 7 her mom found love in another man and cheated on her dad. Months later she found herself pregnant with the other mans child and was tired of living in an abusive relationship. She told me she was almost 8 the day the cops came to the door to oversee her mom leave the house, she remembers nearly everything that happened that day and the following couple months where she was forced to decided who she wanted to live with .... fast forward to today she’s living almost 2000km away from her dad with her little sister, mom and how her stepdad (the other guy) her dad is still an abusive drunk who is drinking himself to death, except he’s living alone all his kinds are moved off now. She still goes to visit him though every Christmas till she’s 18...its part of the custody agreement or something There was always disturbing stories about how he would go on a drinking spree and force her older brothers to drink with him, dragging them out of bed or flipping the mattress. And telling them to man up, basically beating them if they refused drink with him. Here is what really worries me-....we were bbming the other day talking about what she wanted to do when she was older, she said she wanted to be a social worker and work with kids who have been sexually abused. I was telling her it was a really good idea, she would get to help allot of ppl and really make a difference in some life’s. I asked her why she wanted to do that, what her motivation was. She told me there was a story....immediately alarm bells were going off in my head, sort of confused i asked to hear it. She said she would rather tell me in person, she gets to emotional even thinking about it She said it was the reason she finds it so hard to trust anyone, why she hates her dad and that she’s never told anyone, not even her mom. She said she use to see a councillor but she could only tell her so much because she wasn’t 18 and she didn’t want anything to happen to her dad, she said its caused her so much pain with all the tests and stress and that if she tried to tell her mom she wouldn’t believe her, she would just think she was starting drama so she wouldn’t have to go visit him this year. I did my best to comfort her and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault, that her mom would believe her. I also told her that if she wanted to go and talk to someone I would help her out the best I could We still haven’t had the conversation for me to find out exactly what happened, but im assuming she was sexually abused. When we do talk in person about this I want to be prepared .....help?