I grew up with an abusive mother who was severely bipolar and depressed. My father didn't want to know me so I only lived with my mother. She abused both me and my grandmother physically and mentally. She died when I was 13 and I have lived with my grandparents ever since. She was their only daughter and I am their own grandchild and although I am spoilt and have more than I could ever ask for materialistically, they seem to want to control my life.
My grandmother was awfully to me last because I wanted to move away for uni and she put me through a lot. I ended up moving anyway and it's been good to have space in our relationship, but that doesn't mean that when I'm home I'm not faced with the same sort of problems. I told her I'm going travelling for a month and she completely lost it. She said I'm being selfish for just leaving and going away and that I haven't thought about her at all and that the fact that she's not going to be alive forever. I've mostly ignored her as by this point I know how it all plays out anyway. But she told me the other day that she was close to getting my straightener, hairdryer, laptop charger etc. and cutting the plugs off the end. Then earlier she got angry and threw her drink at me and then hit my across the face. In the end she apologised but said that the way she hit me was nowhere near the same as how my mother would. In a different conversation later on, she was completely ignoring me when I was saying that she had hit me, and every time I said 'I didn't deserve you to hit me though' or anything about it she kept saying 'you're being like your mother now'. I don't know what to do :/
My grandmother was awfully to me last because I wanted to move away for uni and she put me through a lot. I ended up moving anyway and it's been good to have space in our relationship, but that doesn't mean that when I'm home I'm not faced with the same sort of problems. I told her I'm going travelling for a month and she completely lost it. She said I'm being selfish for just leaving and going away and that I haven't thought about her at all and that the fact that she's not going to be alive forever. I've mostly ignored her as by this point I know how it all plays out anyway. But she told me the other day that she was close to getting my straightener, hairdryer, laptop charger etc. and cutting the plugs off the end. Then earlier she got angry and threw her drink at me and then hit my across the face. In the end she apologised but said that the way she hit me was nowhere near the same as how my mother would. In a different conversation later on, she was completely ignoring me when I was saying that she had hit me, and every time I said 'I didn't deserve you to hit me though' or anything about it she kept saying 'you're being like your mother now'. I don't know what to do :/
