I want to start this by saying that my husband is wonderful. He truly loves me. I do not believe he has ever been unfaithful to me, as far as actually having an affair with someone. That being said, here is my issue: I can't stand for my husband to look at another woman as if he is attracted to her. I understand that is unreasonable of me. I've been told by lots of people that men are going to be attracted to women, even men who are happily married, love their wives and would never be unfaithful...they still are attracted to other women, it's something they can't help. But I hate it I wonder why he has to look at other women like that if he is so much in love with me and truly thinks I am so beautiful, which he keeps telling me I am. He always tells me I am the most beautiful woman he has ever seen in his life. I wonder though, if that's the case, why does he feel the need to stare at other women like he does? That is actually the only thing we ever argue about. The arguing has gotten so bad that he denies being attracted to other women now. In the beginning of our marriage, he actually admitted to me that he was attracted to other women ("I don't want to be with anybody but you, but there are a lot of women that are beautiful"); I guess he didn't even think anything about telling me that because other women he had been involved with before me didn't mind, as long as he wasn't doing anything (the oh so popular "look-but-don't-touch outlook). But now he tells me that he is not attracted to other women anymore and when I see him looking at a woman and ask him about it, he comes up with an excuse why he was looking (example: "I thought I recognized her as the wife of somebody I know and was looking to see if that's who she was").
I know it is stupid of me to feel this way, but I can't help it. This is how I feel. Why I'm posting this...mostly because something happened today while we were watching t.v. (cute woman on a t.v. show), it triggered suicidal feelings in me and I guess I was hoping that if I typed this out, got my feelings out, it would help me get over it.
I know it is stupid of me to feel this way, but I can't help it. This is how I feel. Why I'm posting this...mostly because something happened today while we were watching t.v. (cute woman on a t.v. show), it triggered suicidal feelings in me and I guess I was hoping that if I typed this out, got my feelings out, it would help me get over it.