I'm in my 40's and no friend of mine had ever met a premature death, until just now! My friend battled depression, drug use, and all that. We used to hang out, and she was more considerate than most other friends I've ever had. About nine months ago she dropped outta sight. I called friends who called friends. We heard she was back at home with parents and doing OK. I got the phone book out this morning and wrote down the numbers of every listing with her surname. I called the first one and her mother told me she took an overdose the day after Christmas and died.
Someone told me it wouldn't have mattered if I'd called a week earlier, as she was so self-destructive and isolating herself. Still, imagine how I felt.
I've known for years that the top months for suicide are around March and April. I promised myself I'd always watch out for my friends a little extra in the winter. But this is so early! I no longer battle depression myself, but when winter comes and the sun isn't around, I feel my mind almost shutdown. I sat there in the church looking at the sun coming through the stained glass and marvelled at how something as simple as the sun might prevent suicide!
I'm more determined than ever now to stay in touch with anyone who is at risk. My friend hadn't had her cellphone disconnected . . she had it turned off herself! And, she had to have known my friend had called her parents because we were wondering about her. Yet, she made no effort to keep in touch. But, I shoulda tried a little harder. Damn, damn, damn.
As this is my first time with a friend passing away, I hope I do OK. I just discovered this site. It's a needed and good thing I'm sure!
Lonz
Someone told me it wouldn't have mattered if I'd called a week earlier, as she was so self-destructive and isolating herself. Still, imagine how I felt.
I've known for years that the top months for suicide are around March and April. I promised myself I'd always watch out for my friends a little extra in the winter. But this is so early! I no longer battle depression myself, but when winter comes and the sun isn't around, I feel my mind almost shutdown. I sat there in the church looking at the sun coming through the stained glass and marvelled at how something as simple as the sun might prevent suicide!
I'm more determined than ever now to stay in touch with anyone who is at risk. My friend hadn't had her cellphone disconnected . . she had it turned off herself! And, she had to have known my friend had called her parents because we were wondering about her. Yet, she made no effort to keep in touch. But, I shoulda tried a little harder. Damn, damn, damn.
As this is my first time with a friend passing away, I hope I do OK. I just discovered this site. It's a needed and good thing I'm sure!
Lonz