My mask.

[iwadrama]

Every morning I put on a fake smile and a fake, happy-go-lucky attitude. I just can't do it anymore. I always listen to my friends, cheer them up, but their problems are getting to me. I picture myself in their situations, I can feel their pain, and it's really hitting me.

I try, everyday, to now let it bother me but I just can't do that anymore..

 

[fromthatshow]

It's ok not to be happy. If you're sad, just let yourself be sad.
We all wear masks but eventually, as you said, it gets too hard. I haven't been able to do it in a long time. If I have to, it takes a tremendous amount of energy.
Hope you can find a way to be yourself. People will appreciate it

 

[andyc68]

i expect everyone here will understand you, but every now and then the mask must come off, its natural.

don't be scared to show your true feelings


:hug:

 

[snowraven]

Wearing that mask is hard work. I hate doing it myself but most people can't cope when you take it off. That's why I come here. I don't have to bs anyone. You say people tell you their problems. That's probably because you are a good listener. You probably also know how that will be of help to them. There are lots of people here who are good listeners too so you should try talking to people here. Let others help you in the same way you help your friends. Best of luck.

 

[quest]

The first person you must take care of is you, which is something easy to forget or not think of.

 

[Oak]

Every morning I put on a fake smile and a fake, happy-go-lucky attitude. I just can't do it anymore. I always listen to my friends, cheer them up, but their problems are getting to me. I picture myself in their situations, I can feel their pain, and it's really hitting me.

I try, everyday, to now let it bother me but I just can't do that anymore..

that is the problem with wearing masks and being empathic to others. to be a good listener is a gift, but when we become sponges to other's problems then we harm ourselves and of no use. Let yourself be heard for a change, put down the mask and let them see you for who you are, a fragile person just like them. they will sure appreciate you better. as much as we give in support lets not foget ourselves in the process.

good luck and be safe hun. xx

 

[delargeal]

Wearing that mask is hard work. I hate doing it myself but most people can't cope when you take it off.

Everything said in this thread is unfortunately true. And with the above quote, no one has ever understood or coped when my mask comes off.

I also understand the original post. In many ways, we wear the mask for so long that it almost becomes part of us so removing the mask is near impossible. Even if we do want to take it off, it's too difficult because we feel as though we would suffer without.

The mask only comes off in private and we get so stuck with wearing that mask in public it's almost like clothing. You can be naked in your own room, but being naked in public is strictly taboo. The same applies to the mask.