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My mother wants to quit smoking - any advice?

#1
I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I hope I can get help here.

My mom has been smoking for years.
I've wanted her to quit for a long time and recently she said she may want to try again.

She got some Chantix from her doctor a long time ago.
She wants to use that, but she never makes it stick.

I believe she smokes when she is stressed out.
So she needs a way to cope with stress, that doesn't involve nicotine.

I also think my father is her biggest stressor.
He likes to push her buttons and she gets mad.
She also drinks and smokes pot.
I don't want her to start doing those more often though.

She attempted to quit smoking a long time ago, and she succeeded.
But she just started eating more and gained weight.
She says she felt better when she was smoking because she didn't have the extra weight.

I've tried to convince her to meditate and change her diet, but she will not even try.

I don't know if anyone here has had any similar problems, but any help would be appreciated.
Thank you.
 
#3
No.
He drinks every night.
Sometimes he pushes her buttons and sometimes doesn't.

I sometimes think that yelling at him would get him to stop because that's what my mom has to do, but I yelled at him once and he threatened to throw me out of the house.
If he gets her really mad she starts screaming at him.
And that works, but then she goes and smokes.

He used to smoke too, but he saw what your lungs look like when you smoke, and that scared him straight and he feels better.
My mom doesn't care about the lungs thing though.
So that won't work.
 
#5
Yeah, you're right.
It's not horribly abusive stuff my dad does(I've heard much worse from other people), but when I was trying to get in the army, they were at each other's throats the whole time arguing about stupid crap.
My mother isn't innocent either though (I'm not sure if I should go into that here).
I don't know why they stayed married, but I don't think they love each other that much.
 

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