"It is NOT my problem." I am not living it. It is not my reality. Therefore, "It is NOT my problem." I am only responsible for my self. Oh, I know this statement seems very arrogant and also very non empathetic/caring, but that is truth. Whatever happened, even in my own past, is NOT my problem. It does not apply to my life. I am not in the past. There is only present. What is here and now is what is relevant and the only thing I need to do is to focus my attention and keep mind firmly 'planted' in the Here and Now.