My Only Way Out.

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by Very Broken, Dec 18, 2008.

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  1. Very Broken

    Very Broken New Member

    Hello. I am 41/m . I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years (6 weeks ago), and have been suffering ever since. It has been unbearable. yes, I broke up with her. She loved me. But now she is with someone else. And that's not the worst of it. I also owe the IRS over $150,000. and the state about $40,000. I am going to lose everything, and probably go to jail. I feel the only way out is to die. I can't go on living anymore. It is just too hard. I have never thought about suicide before in my life. I have a very loving family and we all very are close. I do not want to hurt them, but I think it is what I have to do. I've lived a pretty good life, I have no kids. And I have a bottle of prescription sleeping pills I can take, and just go to sleep forever.
  2. Clockwork Reality

    Clockwork Reality Well-Known Member

    I'm sorry to hear about your current troubles.

    I take it that you've been consulting with legal counsel? If not, I'd recommend that you do so right away, even if you don't have the money upfront.

    I don't know the circumstances, but suicide isn't the answer. It's the times of turmoil that define who we are.

    Please hang on.
  3. andyc68

    andyc68 Guest

    sorry to hear your troubles, i understand where you are coming from as its why i am here.
    emotional pain from a break up is hard to bear, its like your greiving but suicide is just a knee jerk reaction.
    yes you have problems to deal with but take a pause and see if there is another way
    you have a family who love you, your death will hit them harder than you can imagine

    be safe
  4. worlds edge

    worlds edge Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear about all of that. But she seems to have rebounded awfully quick, having been in love with you.

    Have you tried going the offer in compromise route? There's a chance they might even forgive some of the debt, I've seen it happen. Even if the ads on the radio about eliminating IRS debt completely are total BS. Unfortunately, what you need is an attorney who knows how to work the system, and the ones who know what they're doing do NOT come cheap.

    FWIW, in my professional life, back when I had one, my experience was that IRS is much easier to deal with than any of the states. Who seem to be really, really nasty in this area.

    I don't think you can say for sure with either, at least not yet.

    FWIW, tPtB around here take a pretty strong line on methods, so that last sentence will probably be edited out.

    And if there's one thing I've learned about suicide over the past few years, it is that you can always do it later, given how much of my time is spent thinking about it. And I think you've got far too much in flux to know for sure what will happen, certainly not to do anything rash at this point.
  5. Very Broken

    Very Broken New Member

    This is all just so hard to deal with at once. It is so overwhelming. I just feel it's a quick and easy way out. I feel I've "peaked" in my life, things were so good earlier on. They can not get better, only worse. I am supposed to see my therapist tomorrow. I will talk to him, and I hope he can help. But I'm so afraid of what's coming in my future. It looks very bleak...
  6. levitated-one

    levitated-one Well-Known Member

    Sleeping pills (most often) will not work, you'll end up feeling very very sick.

    About going to jail, will you still need to go to jail if you file for bankruptcy?
  7. worlds edge

    worlds edge Well-Known Member

    Some tax debts aren't released in bankruptcy, IIRC, no matter what flavor of bankruptcy you do.

    The worst situation I believe is 'trust fund' or 'agency' taxes, where you're simply serving as the collector of the tax. Taxes withheld from employees paychecks and sales taxes collected from customers that you fail to remit are the most common. And I'm pretty sure neither is dischargeable in bankruptcy, since neither was your money to begin with.
  8. Raphael1

    Raphael1 Well-Known Member

    Sleeping Pills will not work. They are designed not to kill you on overdose. They will make you extremely sick, but they will not kill you.

    Please don't kill yourself you can find another way.
  9. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Why is it that people make the connection that overdosing on sleeping pills will cause death? These days really anything you can get on prescription won't kill you if overdosed on its demanded that way and designed that way.
  10. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    hello very broken,

    Welcome to sf.

    I'm sorry to hear about your crisis.

    Have you considered having therapy to help you deal with the break up? Suicide isn't the answer. Don't give up hope :hug:
  11. levitated-one

    levitated-one Well-Known Member

    Not true..there are many prescriptions that when overdose, will cause death. But sleeping pill isn't one of them..more often than not, you'll wake up 1-2 days later feeling really really sick.
  12. Very Broken

    Very Broken New Member


    What is going on with me. I am pathetic. I cant seem to stop thinking about her. The thing is, is that when I was with her, I didn't care too much or even know I was this much in love with her. How the heck am I going to get over her? I was with my ex wife for 10 years, and didn't feel anywhere near this bad when she left me for someone else...
    I just want her back in my arms. And it just aint going to happen. I am miserable.
  13. Very Broken

    Very Broken New Member

    I am in therapy. Not really helping... I'm just venting there.
    I would still rather die right now. What is the least painful way to go? I do not own a gun. If I did, I would be gone by now. I dont want to cut my wrists... Is there an easy way to do it?
  14. Jooper62

    Jooper62 Well-Known Member

    I would see a good tax lawyer..see what opitions you have..taking pills never works makes you sick..I have been in a simular situation and seeing a therapist it takes time it won't happen over night.Taking care of yourself is most important now by seeing a therapist... take care
  15. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    I agree with the others, you need a good lawyer. I owed tax money at one time also. I ended up having to make payments to the IRS to settle the debt. A good lawyer might be able to make some of that debt disappear. I am in a similar boat with child support right now. They are saying I owe several thousand in back child support. I paid my support off years ago. Only problem is I lost all my paper work to flood from a hurricane. My daughter is 26 and I have bought and sold a house with no lien on it. Hell I have even got income tax returns back. So I have no clue why they are coming after me for a debt I paid years ago. Point being I have to get a lawyer now to settle this. I don't know where I am going to get the money for that because I am on disability.
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