My parents have eating disorders

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by aquarius, Feb 13, 2009.

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  1. aquarius

    aquarius Member

    Hey everybody, I don't know if this is the right kind of topic in this forum. But here goes, I have to get this off my chest.

    Both of my parents are morbidly obese. They are both over 60 years old. They are both diabetic, and they don't care. It's like they don't have any desire to get better, and they just disregard the fact that their health is deplorable. Both of them are very bitter, and angry people, and they are completely withdrawn from the world. They have been warned by tons of doctors, and dieticians, and the like. They have been warned for decades, and they pay no attention whatsoever to anything they have been told. All of their siblings have had strokes, heart attacks, and have died at young ages from being so unhealthy. You would think that would be a wake up call. But, no, not my parents - no way, no how. They just keep on eating and eating like it's going out of style. They just don't care. They eat 90% junk food all of the time too - for 2 decades now.

    Their latest thing is that they have become racists now, and shout racial slurs at the television all day. It's very sad and pathetic. They hardly ever do anything but watch TV on their days off, and they have no social life at all. They havn't had a life outside of watching TV for a couple of decades. I know that both of them won't be around very much longer. And, it hurts me so much to see them like this. I get so depressed even being around them. But, I have to live with them for a couple more years if they live that long.

    I have tons of problems myself. My health is not that bad, but I go to the gym fairly regularly. I'm no prize as far as looks, and I have my own social disorders that bring me down. So, because my own life is such a mess and total disaster, I can't do very much to help them. But, even if I tried, as I have umpteen thousand times in the past, they just blow me off. They act like it's none of my business that they are so unhealthy.

    I have been living with this for many years now, as their health has deteriorated to the point where they have to do insulin injections. They never exercise either. They are both extremely lazy.

    I'm hurting so much from watching them do this to themselves. It literally brings tears to my eyes every time I see them. I just don't know what I can do.

    I've gone to shrinks and discusssed this with them. I've even had shrinks talk to my parents, and tell them how I feel. It didn't matter, and nothing worked.

    If anybody can offer any suggestions, it's much appreciated. If there's any good books someone could recommend for my situation, it's much appreciated.

    - aquarius
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  2. LastCrusade

    LastCrusade Well-Known Member

    Everyone has lessons to learn and everyone thinks they know it all and do not need any advice on how to live. " They will not listen, they will not know how, ......perhaps they listen now" -- song in point " Vincent"
  3. mdmefontaine

    mdmefontaine Antiquities Friend

    ...i am glad you reached out to talk about this.

    your parents are adults, adults, are responsible for themselves. you didn't cause their health problems, 'e.d.'., you can't control them, and you can't cure them.

    it is great that you have a more healthy lifestyle - and maybe one day they will 'wake up' and follow your example. . . but . . the important thing is not to let their habits and attitudes drag you down. . you need to work on being healthy and 'positive' yourself.

    i still think parents have the responsibility to be as healthy and as emotionally healthy as possible. . . for the sake of their children. it must be hard to see your parents like this - - i'm here if you need to talk - or talk to anyone - and take good care of yourSELF. . . hugs xx
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