OK, well, I have suffered from depression for 5 years or so, but I find myself improving and I'm a lot more happier nowadays. The thing is, it occurred to me how the problems I've been though ARE things that I can let go of easily, well, for example, my parents split up four years ago and that's what triggered my "depression" because things changed so drastically especially when we started off as a happy family, but now I'm starting to think, "Hmm.. my parents WERE in an arranged marriage, you can't blame them when one day, they decided to split up, arranged marriages do not work most of the time anyway." and maybe they just wanted to be happy, and I guess splitting up was for the best, at the end of the day, as long as my parents were happy, I guess I should be happy too, and then from that thought, I've managed to understand that sometimes relationships in general don't really work, partners come and go, that's the reality of it, sure there are strong relationships out there, and people have managed to stay together forever, but we're all human beings, I know that sometimes people get hurt in a relationship especially after a break up, but honestly, we all have to accept whatever happens and accept that nothing in life is ever perfect, we go through ups and downs in general. I suppose that I can also add that even if a break up hurts so much, just remember that killing yourself over a guy or girl is just pointless.. I guess I could say that "There's nothing more better than the unconditional love of friends and family, friends and family will always be in life when people walk out." I'm not trying to say that the love between a husband and wife is nothing special, I'm just trying to say that even if things didn't work out with your partner.. you should always remember that no matter what, you will always have your friends and family there by your side, only they are the ones that will never walk out of your life, so it's important to cherish your relationships with other people as well as cherishing the relationship you have with your husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend. Another thing I can talk about is when my Dad died three years ago of cancer, I still grieve about him, but thinking about him so much more somehow made me realise, "I shouldn't be so depressed, my Dad wanted me to be happy, even though he's not around, I still feel that he would want me to be strong and live on, death is not the end, because I know that after my time is done, I'd get to see my Dad again in another place." I am not over him, I do miss him, but I've always reminded myself lately that I should pick myself up off of the ground, he's taught me so much about life, I shouldn't give up and just always remember the things he's told me, and use it to help myself live on, be strong and handle any obstacles that head my way. To me personally, grieving is just missing someone who isn't around so much it hurts, but in the end, you eventually move on with the thought that you will one day see them again. My whole point is, I agree that things DO happen for a reason generally speaking, and I've come to a conclusion that I shouldn't see anything as problems anymore, but as a challenge, I am aware that people on this forum may not agree with me, but I thought that maybe if I put forward my thoughts, it can help others think more about things. Some people say that God hates them because he's constantly giving them problems in life, but what if he didn't hate you? What if he was just testing you to see how you can fight back? At the end of the day, that's the whole point about living this life, sure facing so many problems is enough to want to kill yourself, but would you let them win and take over you? With every problem, there will always be a solution anyway, which reminds me, I should add in the famous quote, "Suicide is a permanent solution to something so temporary and small." Is it really worth it? Life isn't just about fun and laughter, there are also the bad times. I believe that the more problems you face, the more it'll just make you stronger if you don't give in, and just hang in there. Most of you may think, "Oh this girl can't talk, she most probably don't understand what it's like to be REALLY depressed." But guys, I've been depressed for 5 years, attempted suicide (which failed), have seen two different counselors, and I've been through other major problems in life before that I didn't mention on here which were extremely bad. But hey, I'm thankful that my suicide attempts have failed and I've managed to improve on myself with the whole feeling depressed thing. Not only did thinking of everything help me decide to stay strong and hang in there for a bit more longer, but I've managed to find so many things to live for. My friends are always there for me, hanging out with them is enough to help me cheer up, whenever I'm down, they're there for me to talk to. My Mom and my sister are the only family I have left, I've decided to not end my life in this way, my Mom has been through so much already especially, a separation with my Dad and has lost him a year later due to cancer, I know she wouldn't want to lose me either, I know how much she actually loves and cares for me. My sister I must stay for, because she's still growing up, she would need me there for her, I'm the eldest sister and she looks up to me, not only will I always tell her to work hard in school, but I'll make sure that I will guide her through life and see her walk the right path. I have already willingly accepted this role, and wish to help people bring out the best in themselves. (If anyone on here wants to talk, send me a PM and I shall send you all my e-mail). In conclusion, to me, suicide and depression does not exist.. depression is something that can easily be cured if you are willing to help yourself, and suicide can be prevented if you stay strong. I've changed my ways, and as I've said, you shouldn't see things as problems but as a challenge, don't let them beat you down. If I can do it, I believe that you can too.