My wife of 30 years was traumatized by a cousin groping her when she was a young teen. It scared her. Okay. I get that. But he groped her once, about 40 years ago! She called her daddy and he came and got her right away. Why is 30 years with a loving husband not enough to make up for that one bad "sexual" experience? Why am I still shut out and cut off from having sex with the woman I love when I did nothing wrong? This is not fair to me. Thirty years versus five minutes. It's just not fair. In high school, when I was a freshman, I had my assets kicked by the school soccer star (a senior). He thought I was fooling around with his girl friend. He was a pretty dim bulb, since I didn't even know who he was (before the beating), and had never once met his precious girl friend. The guy had about 80 pounds on me and hit me when I wasn't looking. He beat me unconscious. Literally. He beat me till I was completely unable to fight back because I had blacked out!!!!!!!!!! But I don't fear being around other men. I don't let that beating into our bedroom. I was beaten unconscious. She was groped. Why can't she move on?