My girlfriend wants to just be friends and get to know me better outside a relationship. She doesn't want us to date other people and will self harm if I leave her. I am trapped and she is not being fair. I set rules for us and she did not respect them. She tries to control everything and is very immature for 30. She parties all the time and has drunk people stay at her apartment, to include guys. I dont know what to do about her threatening things for not getting her way. I know we are having issues but cant imagine her commiting to take her life if I want something and she doesnt.