Short version: Kara is my best friend. Her Boyfriend Chuck has only known her for 4 months and is already obsessed with her. She no longer wants to be with him but every time she threatens to leave he threatens to kill himself. He has already stabbed himself twice and causes himself harm on a daily bases. He is explosive, controlive, and manipulative. Please help! Long version: If I'll say hello everyone. I'm not the type to reach out like this, I'm usually the one that helps all my friends, and has a reasonable answer to guide them. But I am just stuck with this issue. Now I need help and I don't know where to turn. So my very best friend in the world, I'll call her Kara, started dating this guy at work, I'll call him Chuck. They dated for about a month before circumstances made her move in with him in his mother and father's house. (He is younger than her, only 18, but she didn't know this at the time, he lied and said he was 25, it wasn't till she moved in with him did she find out his real age.) Once she moved in he started hitting her and mentally abusing her. He is a really strong guy, was a boxer, and she is a tiny girl. Chuck is explosive and has major anger problems, he treats Kara like she is his property. He would drive somewhere in HER car and beat her, or pin her in a corner in his room and cover her mouth as he hit her so his family wouldn't hear. After two months of that she had enough and broke away from him, moving back into her parent's house. And that was a relief to us. Everyone was glad he left her go without hurting her. He claimed he was sorry for ever hitting her. During the time in her mother's house Kara kept thinking about Chuck. I tried to help her, but she wouldn't listen. Chuck was telling her at work he was miserable with his life, that he wanted to kill himself and kept begging for her to come back, every day. During this time he stole from her bank account, since when she moved out in a hurry she accidentally left it in his wallet. He begged for her forgiveness. I kept telling her to forget him, that he was no good if he could hit you and abuse you, but . . . After being away from him for a week she had to see him. He begged and cried, so they meet. Since she left he really threw his life away. He lost all is Id's, work pay card, Social security card, was doing lots a weed, hardly came home, was explosive, wandered the streets. So much so he got himself kicked out of his parent's house. So when he came to her, crying, he was homeless. He swore up and down that he was changed that he would never hit her again. He was totally obsessed with her. Even though they only dated for a month and then lived together for two months all he could think about was her. He said he had to get out of the house cause he'd see her apparition in his room, he said he roamed the streets looking for her. He said he could not live without her. Kara's mother would not allow someone who hit her daughter to move in so Kara, feeling partly responsible decided to help him. I asked how she left about him, and she says that sometimes she loves him, but she's not in love with him. She really just wanted to be friends. She talked to his parents and they said he can move back in if she moves back in as well ( cause they were both helping with rent, his parents are very mean people and treat him like dirt for how badly he had treated the rest of the family. He could only stay as long as the two of them pay up. They like her more than him because he is explosive.) She lived there with him for another month, hoping things would get better, during that time he was still explosive and they argued constantly, he didn't hit her but he would bend her fingers back to make her stop complaining, or get in her face and yell and cuss. And he started to tell her how to dress, she put her foot down and fought the issue which caused lots of arguments, he punched her car horn and dented it. Now whenever they are at the store together if a guy looks at her wrong he will start and argument. He's already cussed out a convince store clerk (male) and generally looks for fights with other guys over staring at his "wife". And now whenever she threatens to leave him, or says let's just be friends, or hesitated to say that she's his wife or that she is in love with him he threatens to kill himself. He has already stabbed himself in the leg and sliced his arm open in a six inch gash. Just two weeks ago I went with them to go had in an job application, and a small argument escalated to a full blown argument. I was sitting in the back watching this unfold, scared that he was going to start hitting her as he yelled in her face, and she yelled right back. She said she wanted to leave and he took her keys and threw them out of the car then he started to punch himself in the face, really, really, hard. He used to do boxing and is a pretty buff guy and I could hear the pounding whacks. It was horrible. We freaked and grabbed his hands and he pushed me off and grabbed his switchblade. Kara and I had to literally struggle against him from cutting his wrist. That’s when he stabbed his leg. Another time after that we were all talking at a picnic table, and she again tried to tell Chuck that she just wanted to be friends and he started to punch in his face, punch the metal picnic table, threw his cup of soda. I grabbed his switch blade before he could take it from his pocket and have not given it back to him since. He was telling us to leave and walk away, that he was just going to kill himself. He kept trying to shove his fingers into his eyes to where we had to grab his hands. Till Kara said, OK, OK, I GIVE YOU WIN, I'll stay. That’s been the vicious cycle. Kara doesn't want to be with him, but she can't leave because he WILL kill himself. She says at times she feels for him as a friend, but can't break away from him. She says she can't have the guilt that he killed himself over her on her conscious. But we have convinced him to go see a therapists. And Kara will be scheduling his appointment in the next few weeks. That took a lonnnnnngggggg time to convince him to go. I basically said the next time he tried to kill himself around me I was gonna call the cops. He doesn't want to go, but he is willing to give it a try. Kara really needs help with this. I am posting this for her, at her request because she doesn't have internet. Currently they are renting a place with their combined income. Chuck's parents don't want him back in the house and Kara really wants to move back home to her mother's, but doesn't want him to commit suicide. As a friend what advise can I give her? What should she do about Chuck? Edit to add: I forgot to mention that Chuck doesn't allow her to leave the house without him. If she goes anywhere he must go too, even if she goes to work and he is not working, he will sit in the car waiting for her. If she talks to anyone at work he wants to know what is exactly said. If her cleavage pops out of the top of her brawl, but under her covering shirt (meaning you can see the bump of her cleavage under her shirt, he will force her to wear a jacket. But he no longer allows her to wear brawls like that anymore, she has to wear full covering cup brawls. And he hates her leggins. He also wants her to stop wearing make up to work. But she fights to be able to wear her makeup. And she's not allowed to talk to guys at all, if she does talk to a guy at work it has to be purely business related.