Need help, but am hesitant

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by gyb2, Mar 29, 2009.

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  1. gyb2

    gyb2 Guest


    greetings to everyone in the forum. I'm a 30-something guy and I have frequent suicidal thoughts. It's somewhat of an urge to shut myself down, end the pain. I can address this logically, that it's not a good idea, but even logically, I have a few events in mind where it would be appropriate (just not now). I don't really have any objective reasons to be depressed, I have a family with a toddler daughter, a good job, house, etc. No addictions or other visible trouble, other that I'm generally a timid kind of guy. I "function" ok, but there is not much fun left in my life.

    For many years I have thought about getting treatment, I think I have a mixture of attention deficit and depression symptoms. Where I am hesitating is that the fact that you're in treatment closes doors for you. It was most evident to me in the news stories after the Virginia Tech shooting, when everybody recounted how people in treatment shouldn't have guns, and the countless regulations that are already in place. I have also seen the question about mental health treatment history on more than one questionnaire.

    My question now is, what are the repercussions of getting mental health treatment, particularly in California? I don't ever want this to affect my job chances, and I don't want any liberties restricted either. Also, in particular in regards to anything about suicide, how does this affect this situation? Is there some kind of "code" I can use when talking to a therapist so this doesn't become something that is recorded to authorities.

  2. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    Hi Gyb2,

    I'm in California, and thus far I've noticed that the only people who are denied items due to their mental condition is people who have been involuntarily put into hospitals. Therapy doesn't constitute a record of mental unrest. Plus, the hope is that you can move on with your life.

    If you don't change your mood disorder than you'll always be self-handicapping. You can call up a hospital and ask , also. I've been a depressed for a while but the only true negative was not being admitted into the Air Force. Which isn't that much of a negative, because I can say I tried, but oh well :biggrin:.

    So long as you're not psychotically unfit for society, a little mental help can't hurt.
  3. Beautiful Disaster

    Beautiful Disaster Forum Buddy SF Supporter

    cant help you with that since I am from the netherlands

    I hope you take some time to look into this forum and talk to others, i think they will provide a lot of support..

    Welcome to the forum!

  4. Crue-K

    Crue-K Well-Known Member

    Me too, I'm 34. I only started getting treatment about 4 years ago when I should have started when I was 17 ish. If I had sought help earlier I wouldn't have attempted twice, been sectioned several times, been a junkie, an alcoholic, stole from family and friends, been bankrupt, got divorced blah blah blah, you get the picture. Get help and after a period of time take a look at yourself as see if it has made a difference or not and take it from there.

    As for doors closing for you, here in the UK it does to a certain degree. I have to pay extra for travel insurance and cannot get life insurance at all.
  5. Angelo_91

    Angelo_91 Well-Known Member

    Just dont threaten to them that your gonna kill yourself because they will throw you in a mental hospital... worst idea ever. good luck.
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