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Need help with personal accountability and laziness

RedTerminator13

Well-Known Member
#1
Hi, I've been incredibly lazy the past two weeks and haven't done anything. All I've done is browse youtube and read up on sports, which both have done nothing for me personally. What have you guys done to get out of a funk and stay individually driven? This is something I have struggled with and take accountability for, I just ahte being lazy and now I won't be happy in my life if I continue living this way.
 

ShyGuy

Well-Known Member
#2
It's been the same for me, as well.

One suggestion would be to ban doing the time wasting things you usually do, for like even just one day, and focus on doing other things instead that are more productive.
 

Egg119

SF Supporter
#3
It isn't laziness necessarily, it's more a lack of drive and goals. I find that I do nothing if I don't schedule tasks for the day. I have to plan my evenings/days off when I'm at work, so I know that I wont end up going home and just sitting around all day/evening. As the old saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. It's also important to schedule in time to relax and unwind.
 

EmB

Absolute Peach!
#4
It isn't laziness necessarily, it's more a lack of drive and goals. I find that I do nothing if I don't schedule tasks for the day. I have to plan my evenings/days off when I'm at work, so I know that I wont end up going home and just sitting around all day/evening. As the old saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. It's also important to schedule in time to relax and unwind.
Definitely this, at the moment my mental health has been shocking, so I've started a routine that I have to stick. Set a normal time to wake up at, maybe 9 (early for me, but gets me ready for the day), run or walk, shower, do something fun, lunch, do some work (this varies from my freelance job to just reading up on interesting things), dinner, TV and socialise, bed. I have to keep things strict or I won't do it. Maybe setting up your own could be a good way to stay motivated?

Might also be helpful to give yourself a project to work on, something you'd love to do that you have to work on over time to get the end result. Model kit, write a book, a painting. Anything that makes you excited to do. Mine is to try and tick off as many areas nearby as possible to visit before I go back to uni (I'm lucky to study in a really nice area).

Hope that helps, good luck! Sending hugs.

Em
 

MichaelKay

Well-Known Member
#5
Uhh... I wish I had an answer for that because that's basically how I lived my life for years. No drive, even struggling to take a shower etc.

Anhedonia and dysthimia aren't fun to deal with. It's hard for me to maintain daily routines although I know how good it is for me. I remember when I was admitted for 3 months to a psych ward and some elderly woman insisted on taking a long walk every night after dinner. She ended up motivating me to do so as well and I quite enjoyed taking that stroll with her every day. But for me that's what helps. People who expect things of me like that. People who can motivate me and let me take pleasure in fulfilling their expectations of me.

It's hard for me to motivate myself so the best I can do is try to have other people motivate me instead. Make me feel like I'm not doing things for my own sake but for their sake. It's a bit weird I know but when you don't feel like you deserve any better or can find the motivation inside yourself, sometimes relying on others for motivation can be good.
 

Champagne

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Staff Alumni
SF Supporter
#8
Hi @RedTerminator13

I think you should make a private diary on here, then make a list of things you want to accomplish that day even if its only 2 or 3 things, a start is a start. Or keep sticky notes on the back of your phone or by your laptop and hopefully that would encourage you a little. No giving up. Its not allowed *hug
 

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