Need help

[Beka]

I'm starting to think that having someone to talk to, even if it's one of my close friends would really help me. It's been so long since the abuse happened and I'm not getting any better.
The only problem is that I have no idea how I can talk to anyone about this as in the past when I tried to talk to someone, I just couldn't say anything about it and I would change the subject, I'm not going to get over my problems on my own and any advice is really welcome :/

 

[GoldenPsych]

Hi,

There are people trained in dealing with the problems you have. You may find it useful to speak to someone from a specialist area before you speak to friends etc. They will give you good ways in which you can bring it up.

xx

 

[total eclipse]

Hi hun I agree you need professional help to deal with the past Someone that can guide you through it slowly and with some kind of control Your friends won't have the answers but a therapist will help you

 

[Beka]

Is it possible to get help without my parents finding out? Because that is one of my main worries :/

 

[total eclipse]

Yes you can get help from your regular gp get himto refer you to a therapist If your over 13 everything is confidential Do you have a concellor you can go to at school that will keep everything confidential as well. You parents they maybe the ones you can talk to later perhaps when you get help from the professionals or if you do confide in them they will get you thehelp you need
My daughter confided in me and i made sure she got all the help that was out there hugs

 

[Beka]

I can't go to my school counselor because my mum works at my school so she would find out and that's the thing I don't think I could ever confide in my mum just because I will feel like I've failed her :/ I could go to my doctors but I'm scared of going on my own

 

[total eclipse]

Maybe have one of your friends go with you to the doctors then. You need to confide in someone okay to get the help you will ned to heal. Do not leave it okay do not hold that pain inside yu for years Get help now okay. You mother will not be judgemental you have not failed her okay she will only want to love you and get you the help to heal okay. Is there an aunt or relative you trust to take you to the doctors hugs

 

[Beka]

I will try to get help as it's starting to get out of hand but I know my mum loves me but she will judge me, she judged my sister for sh so she will probably judge me for this, but honestly, all I care about is being able to be properly happy for once thanks for your help :hug:

 

[total eclipse]

Thats what i care about to that you get help okay if your mom judges you the so be it you will still get the helpl you need to heal then and maybe your mom will get help to see clearer and to not judge you but get help now so you are not suffering. Call your doctor and make an appt okay hugs

 

[peacelovingguy]

The school counsellor would not tell your mum as she is bound by confidentiality. If the counsellor is a close friend, that might be different, but she would be very unprofessional if that were the case.

That said, although you do not want to confide in your mum it might be the best route unless the abuse has been committed by someone in the family itself or a friend of.

It is important you talk to someone and as stated there are specialists in this area who deal with abuse.

You are right to want to be able to speak to someone about it but it is wise to keep away from friends and family as their reactions might be destructive.

You need to be able to overcome this and have carried a real burden for all these years. You are a strong person but carrying this around needs to stop at some point. The reason it seems so heavy is that you have kept it to yourself. Sitting down with someone and having time set aside to talk about this will be just the medicine you need for mind, body and soul.

I wish you well.

 

[LukeH]

hi. you said it's getting out of hand.. what did you mean by that?like you feel suicidal most of the day?I hope not. maybe you oughtta try telling urself ur invulnerable, that nothing can touch you?I did that and it helped me sorta

 

[themadcatter]

your mom loves you no matter what, believe in yourself, your young you got so much stuff to look foward too, dont let this sadness bring you down forget about the past and move on, the past was the past theres nothing you can do about it but think, live in the present live your life to the fullest in the present