Here's my dilemma... I met this guy on a forum much like this one. He helped me through some rough times and then I made the mistake of telling him I loved him before he ever said anything like that to me. Hell, I didn't even know if he liked me. Anyway, it's been about 6 months since we met and now we're internet dating and he says he loves me now. He lives 1000s of miles away and we've never met in person. I want to meet him and will save up to get to him, but I'm worried I might be making a mistake. Here is why, these strange coincidences keep occurring that makes me think he is being false with me. Here's a list of what I see.... ---I told him I'd come to where he is to help him get the help he needs because he's been too afraid to ask for help for many years, all of a sudden, like a week later, he tells everyone his problems and gets help. ---He never remembers much about me and never asks me questions to get to know me. (this might just be the way he is, i don't know. Im thinking it's just the way he is to me) ---I tell him I want a guy who will travel an ocean to see me and he tells me he can't do that for me. (yet i'd travel one for him???) ---Once I told him I wasn't going to be home all day and then he decides to stay home that same day and chats all day with other people. (he goes out a lot and has never stayed in all day for me, even at times when I was feeling completely low) ---He comes on to the forum and seeks out other girls who live in the same area as him and gets to know them. We have an open relationship because we live so far apart, but he's a very shy guy and when we first met, he didn't do anything like that, and now suddenly, he's chatting it up with several other girls from the forum. ---He might meet one of these girls soon and he's very nervous about it. I mean, the way a guy gets nervous when he goes on a blind date. And he tells me he has no interest in her that way. ---He meets this other girl recently and then suddenly he is online at a time when he never is, and she happens to be online at the same time. He tells me he came on to talk to me, but it was very early for him and he hardly ever gets on that early. Ok, that's jist of it. Sorry it's so long, but anyone who's read this far, please please, tell me if I'm being paranoid or if these coincidences hold some kind of meaning. He keeps trying to reassure me that he loves me, but things just don't seem to match up. I love him, but am so confused. I need new rational perspectives. Am I just being paranoid or should I just say goodbye Please, I desperately need advice.