Here's the situation. A woman I care very deeply about is very depressed and suicidual. I can't even go into all the things that have happened to her in her life, it's heartbreaking. She's currently in a horrible marriage. Her husband has beat her and emotional abuses her. There's currently a order of protection against him even though they still live together. She's come close to a getting a divorce but insists on staying married for the sake of the son they have together. I hate every minute she has to stay with him. And she tells me the same thing. She can't stand it there. I can't tell you how much I care about this woman. Problem is she's a thousand miles away. We have contact thru phone, IM's, letters, and email and online of course. I sometimes get the feeling she has feelings for me but she holds back. One of the biggest problems is her low self-esteem and depression. It's as if she won't let something good come into her life. Like she thinks she doesn't deserve it. Now I'm looking for advice from women particuliarly women who may have similiar feelings that my friend has which I'm sure a few women here do. And most important I'm looking for SPECIFIC advice on what I can do or say to help my friend. I'm not looking for vague advice like "just support her and be there for her" But please tell me EXACTLY what you would want me to do if she was you. Give Specific examples please. Tell me to do THIS. To say THAT. I really need real usuable advice. Bear in mind I would do ANYTHING I'm capable of doing. I can't give her a million dollars but i could hop in my car and drive 1000 miles non-stop just to give her a hug if she would let me. I hope I'm being clear here. I need some women to reach deep down inside and look for those real solid things that would help in this situation. Don't be afraid to say things that you might not normally say. For example many women of low self-esteem might push a good man away thinking she doesn't deserve him. But would you honestly want that man to try even harder and break thru that wall you're putting up with all his might? Force his love on you when you wouldn't take it normally?? What would it take? What do I need to do here? I'll do anything.