Hi, I would like to ask someone for some advice. I have a very old girlfriend who I have not seen for 8 years. I got an email in July just saying she was sorry. I wrote back saying that I was suprised to hear from her. I didnt hear anything else until last week when I got another email saying that she had had a nervous breakdown and done somehting stupid so was in a phychiatric hospital in London. I assume this was a suicide attempt. She had been looking after her sick mother for several years and her mother had died a few months back.
I asked for her number, which she emailed me and I called her up. She sounded very tired and her speech was slow, possible medication? I can only explain it as she sounded like a very old pensioner even though she is only 33. I kept the conversation quite benign because I was not sure what to say or what her condition was. Basically, she had an abortion when I was dating her and my working hypothesis is that this has come out in therapy in the hospital hence the contact. I want to go down to london to visit her. I asked her if I could and she said that would be nice.
My questions are basically, what can I expect when I see her. Are there certain things I should defitiely not talk about? What sort of support does she need. Why did she contact me? Should I phone the hospital ahead and check it is OK to visit? Really do not know where to start with this one. Thanks,
Tim
I asked for her number, which she emailed me and I called her up. She sounded very tired and her speech was slow, possible medication? I can only explain it as she sounded like a very old pensioner even though she is only 33. I kept the conversation quite benign because I was not sure what to say or what her condition was. Basically, she had an abortion when I was dating her and my working hypothesis is that this has come out in therapy in the hospital hence the contact. I want to go down to london to visit her. I asked her if I could and she said that would be nice.
My questions are basically, what can I expect when I see her. Are there certain things I should defitiely not talk about? What sort of support does she need. Why did she contact me? Should I phone the hospital ahead and check it is OK to visit? Really do not know where to start with this one. Thanks,
Tim