Here's the situation in a nutshell... I broke up with my ex in early November because he was mad at me whatever I did, demanding a TON of my time, and telling me I couldn't hang out with anyone else unless I also had the same amount of time to spend on him. Over the next few months, he was a huge jerk, told my friends he wanted to hurt me if he got the chance, and told me he didn't want to talk to me ever again. I didn't cut off contact because he'd been telling me for the past 8 months that he wanted to kill himself, and as much as he was being a jerk, I wouldn't want to see him come to harm. He tried to talk to me around Easter, continued to be a jerk so I cut off contact. Problem is, I'm seeing someone new, who was a mutual friend of my ex and I. I've been with this guy for 3 months, and we've kept it secret from all our friends for fear of my ex finding out and hurting one of us. We decided we're going to tell him we're together after I move next week because both my bf and I will be in safe places, my ex is going to find out eventually anyway, and he's in a relatively safe place too (with his parents, so at least he's not alone), and we'd rather know when he finds out and be prepared for it than have him get it through word on the street and blindside us. How do I tell him as safely as possible for everyone involved? I'd really appreciate any outside persepective/thoughts/experience anyone could offer, as I don't have anyone I can really talk to about this who's not involved. Thanks for reading folks!