Hello All, Firstly I wanted to say that these fora are a total godsend for those in emotional need and crises. I pray that those in need will be able to find this resource and use it and offer real thanks to those who give of their time to help others. A little about myself:- I am just under 30 and am having a few problems in my life, and I think it would be beneficial to me to get them out in the open. I am a vulnerable adult who has mild to moderate autism and also suffer some confusion about my societal gender. I suffer generalized anxiety and a degree of atypical depression. I am losing an abnormal amount of hair in the shower which a friend says is likely due to stress. Despite all the following problems, I love every member of my family. I have a very controlling and manipulative Mother who can do spiteful and I'm sure even vindictive. She uses an array of finely honed emotional and physical devices, Including:- - Guilt tripping about presents. - Lending of money, buying appliances, presents, furniture and renting out houses to people. - Attempting to undermine my own friends to serve her own agenda (e.g. "XXXXX isn't really your friend"). - Constantly espousing her opinions of people she doesn't like to try to make others agree with her. I've now realised she does all this to control people to serve her own extensive emotional needs. I'm sure she does this out of insecurity and is rarely happy despite getting her own way. I believe she is damaged herself and has not received the right help yet. Also, she seems to want to carry the pain of the entire female gender on her own shoulders, and will frequently quote examples of how men treat women badly in other less progressive countries. I have finally left home and I am now beginning to see right through her attempts to control me ; I have started to stand up for myself - She realises this and is now rather intimidated by me as a result. Consequently she is using her already established position and influence over my two younger brothers (Who are both vulnerable, and easily influenced by her) and at least one of their friends to force their opinions of me towards the negative. Effectively I'm being "Closed off" from my family by my Mum. Part of me thinks that this will all blow over in time, that eventually as my brothers mature and form their own opinions, they too will see how they have been subtly robbed of their individuality and freedom to think for themselves. My life is otherwise good, I'm earning a living and making friends along the way. Thanks for reading, 'n'