Hi there, so I’m the husband of someone who has attempted suicide on a couple of occasions a few years ago. I’m not going to go into detail as it still hurts me to this day.
My wife had a really abusive childhood and this obviously affected her badly. She was not in a good mental state when we met which led to these attempts. I couldn’t do much to help her and to some degree I enabled it, of which I’ve felt ashamed. She managed to fix that part of herself but I’ve felt hurt by the attempts (yes, I know my logical brain says it was not her fault) and angry that I enabled it. Because of this, I’ve subconsciously not been able to trust her or me to open up my feelings towards her which has caused a rift in the relationship.
I would like to learn to forgive herself and myself and open up again. Any thoughts would be great. Thanks.
My wife had a really abusive childhood and this obviously affected her badly. She was not in a good mental state when we met which led to these attempts. I couldn’t do much to help her and to some degree I enabled it, of which I’ve felt ashamed. She managed to fix that part of herself but I’ve felt hurt by the attempts (yes, I know my logical brain says it was not her fault) and angry that I enabled it. Because of this, I’ve subconsciously not been able to trust her or me to open up my feelings towards her which has caused a rift in the relationship.
I would like to learn to forgive herself and myself and open up again. Any thoughts would be great. Thanks.