need your ideas

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by Itsme:), Mar 6, 2011.

  1. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member

    just realised i should have posted in here, as everyone in here can relate

    A while ago my friend lost one of their closest friends (I didn't know them very well and there aren't any pictures of them)
    And its coming up to the year anniversary in around a month
    and normally I have spent difficult days with her, stayed the night and been there for her... but I know I won't be able to see her or do anythign with her on the year

    So I decided to make her a present, a kind of box with personalised things i've made/bought to let her know she isn't on her own (cheesey stuff :p), to distract her should she be finding it hard (a new book, puzzle etc) and little things she will like (fave sweets, nail polish etc)

    So far i have

    cheesey stuff
    14 origami stars with things i love about her on the inside
    a letter
    cards with meaningfull lyrics from bands she likes/inspiring pictures/quotes

    book by her favourite author
    nail varnish
    favourite sweet/chocolate

    Just wondered if anyone has any more ideas on things I could put in
    Have you ever done anything like this? or made your own box of things?
    Thanks x
  2. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member

    this is a great idea and very thoughtful of you.

    why is it that you won't be able to see her or do anything with her?
  3. Sadeyes

    Sadeyes Staff Alumni

    That is a wonderful idea, and seems like you included so many meaninful things...she is very fortunate to have you...big hugs
  4. luka

    luka Active Member

    that is great, your a true hero and your doing great,even though i dont know you or her , id like to say thank you for supporting her, yes you can give her all those presetns but the best gift you can give her is YOU, your love and support for her, she might not know it now but int he future shes gonna realise you were there for her :)
  5. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member

    So i gave her it... told her she couldn't open it till that day
    The day has been...
    She hasn't said anything about it, spoke to me loads... nothing about the box not even a thanks

    ... oh well
  6. may71

    may71 Well-Known Member


    it was still really thoughtful of you.

    it could be that your friend was hoping to just try to forget about that day. so maybe better to just let it go.

    but here's what she should have said:

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful gifts!!! You are such an amazing and wonderful friend, and I am so glad that you are my friend. I feel truly blessed to have someone as caring and thoughtful as you are in my life!!!!

    :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars:
    :hug: :hug: :hug:
  7. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member

    Thankyou May :)<3

    She thanked me in the end... and funnilly enough said something along the lines of what you said :p
    Wasn't a waste of time after all :) :mhmm:
  8. kmj221

    kmj221 Well-Known Member

    You make me cry, because I only wish I had a friend like you! kmj221
  9. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member

    I'm sure you have a friend who would do the same... somepeople just aren't able to show how much they care

    if you ever need to talk pm me :) x
  10. kmj221

    kmj221 Well-Known Member

    No I literally have no friends. I have no one!!! I'm glad that you are such a compassionate person!!! kmj221
  11. chipper

    chipper Well-Known Member

    you know what? make a box for yourself. you deserve it more than anyone. put all the things that make you feel good in that box and make it your bday gift to yourself.
  12. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member


    should you ever need a friend i'm here x
  13. Itsme:)

    Itsme:) Well-Known Member

    thankyou :)
    i may do sometime if i find the time :p x